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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZ-828ui,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬ee4c5dd3510b8466bfc3aa8f0d2fd26b87b84e39。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚ITViYTU4YWE5YWNlZDc=,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰afc091d64c85eff7549994e5999f9329f579fd25,扯出“阴阳合同”QDViYTU4YWE5YWNlZWU=,再到后来与范冰冰和解MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGOwzqmiMDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KhGe9tbmi

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间7583c30231dc7d9e2eafbfe03d98b67d,网上也是充斥着各种评论KjViYTU4YWE5YWNlZmU=,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的NWJhNThhYTlhY2YwNw==,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的68b69847601f739f4dd27d3a81d689012c561a6d,还有大谈戏子误国的……JjViYTU4YWE5YWM5MmE=

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总之JDViYTU4YWE5YWNmMTk=,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6EtsvMjYqemb53iK2xoqGiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhGiw27Gi

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事情刚出来的时候IzViYTU4YWE5YWNmMjE=,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhaCwy62i,谈看法MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhaCwy8-i,聊的火热817b5134737a1405549bcf1ca906bac6。只有小白一言不发f06806244d5c4c47f0995f2731bd91c27dc5d09a,当问到她的看法时JDViYTU4YWE5YWNmNDA=,小白说:MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KhGi9pbWi

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论ae95ce3158c1caed4d55810fc0e3c4163481ec31,还是等真相出来再说吧!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KhGi9tbWi

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小白是公司新来的同事MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhaCxpcui,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论378ec0ff8c61005ac96f2984a63792ecda1c3b53,更少抨击话题人物ccc03e7509c52965598975785de9d88f。就算偶尔发表意见9f5782947f48ec5204b6a064b97e1a077eb39b4e,也总是很有自己的态度NWJhNThhYTlhY2Y2Nw==,不会被大家的情绪所干扰dfc8e9b9bbb4f6399a7d4a908a6b5ebb7e5c7486,总是一副超然物外58f1f32cc05ad6739f57b3b08b8e601dcedcde6a,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她578681feec91ef9a149c80c2bc53fb36ec61a180,也从来不会人云亦云JDViYTU4YWE5YWNmODc=,有自己的想法JDViYTU4YWE5YWNmOTA=,而且常常是一针见血d40e3abfa933239ecb03d0c4f4d190697b3e9447,直指问题核心QDViYTU4YWE5YWQ0NTc=ed752d74af41adbd25dc22e102e5fbf16f20979c

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣be74b086546a4a02955d842bab02fea3aa15adf4,喜怒不形于色NWJhNThhYTlhY2ZhOA==,而且从不和大家一样站队JjViYTU4YWE5YWNmYjA=,叽叽喳喳地发表意见MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KhaC8y6mi,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGOxuKmi。但学姐反而觉得KjViYTU4YWE5YWNmYmY=,这样的小白很有魅力QDViYTU4YWE5YWQ0Njg=JDViYTU4YWE5YWNhMTM=

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代IzViYTU4YWE5YWNmYzg=,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来33fbaa771b847825a74d4ce22218030b,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言KjViYTU4YWE5YWNmZGM=,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂15f3c17a29a6fedc3a8a53421b9ec5dae65188c9,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!JjViYTU4YWE5YWNhMjU=

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhaC9tb2i,甚至离真相越来越远d471eed83e9d2cb7233bc0a2c5a89cb3c2318690。可是当时当刻e0d04b7506ac3c554c6e7eefbaef0feb7891e314,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”8dc561e537b46da22bfe10992af1cea0b177f957,至于眼前的事实是否是真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhaC9zr2i,who care呢?94c496998d73543bb2b92db5f7352cc44a5e52b6

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但小白不一样00f3e0903903d76ead47ebdc5c6d3c9e,学心理学出身的她ac71c23ebf21b51bced320cd08160cbf39d2afeb,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZuxy8ei

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“一件事情发生后1c155b380b1ae07b3358e8ecaacd4e4a,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上b5381ffd66b16a3d48784c62ee8c51de1147f192,能引发体内激素分泌MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6EtsvMjYqemb53eK2woqGi,导致情绪浮动很大的元素78126017802cbab451fb8bbeb70f30b7,直面事件本身017aefcc041d368c300cfb7eee9a68906a95ceef,看到事件核心7a92df6449ba78251a20660768a597cd。”90fdb2555d1cfaf52d5feb24dd08de1fd444dbee

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”9cfb805b10cd24e2731a9bcae8cca38239722f27XjViYTU4YWE5YWNhOTg=

拒绝“性冷淡”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZuytc-i

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”25b1cc4ca7c4cde6be7c540409b45c87

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKqxpcui,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKqxtaWi,叫“第一时间思考力”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGOypbWi。指的是一件事情出来后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKqxtcui,你在“第一时间”会想到什么12c4a1d0afed4444f56e620c5c3fd8eacac2c296,会做什么936c55cb36d2b0ef5c355bf54960b33e4f1b30e2,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式ec626a590b83ce0fd1fe4ed416f6bb0424648d727d714b0b96112997747fe4fa

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考0ab47079177228bf19b37bc81d59f31ca74e73ad,越来越少6d566bb5d6c11506e67004f25d13f57b4e9f7507。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为d2eb6da8b424c3299abcaf3ba1c45d36,越来越只是情绪的出口MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKqypa2i,而不是深度思考的入口0cc1d8584b92af5b9fb821c01e2c66543c721f611d83ea1a3d5cdf1102c6e4d3220555f0

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样281880eace69cf16f50b105ed6a2748f。事情曝出来后f434384a232930d9138d433b266dece6f5dedb1e,你在第一时间想的是什么?KjViYTU4YWE5YWNhZGU=

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出bbca0950d19c2df364bde81f90efd447,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病cfbc8944ee31a80c733fc8089a92fe786e2ffbb0,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKq8tbGi,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世b0fa23ca9dcb12dfa8f79cacc9de9c04b8c13e07ccfae1d61acf0cb0c74c2669

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKq8uKmi,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡JjViYTU4YWE5YWQwYmE=,魔鬼在人间!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZyw26Wi

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可是后来a1d6ef90b8de9a5f7869ceab3e4b05f641181a6b,“王凤雅事件”发生反转bd15f35d936b24a7b4d9670e823f478e45668b36。记者调查发现21a0acc4a1148b8f44008f3b0d142c613735ac99,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费146c21230c00e86a7fe85fd730f4b7cddb5d04e9,凤雅确诊在后XjViYTU4YWE5YWQwZGY=,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术2c6c446dd4b98b332746f4da194fef5339d4906f。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多13a6ccabea615941aedaf59565a1688d,也并不是网上说的“15万”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGO8k6mi6c6af15bbcfe1e50cde7737619d85ccda0f58642

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这时MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6EtsvMjYqemb53eZ-ysqGi,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6EtsvMjYqemb53iZ6w2KGi。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKq9y6mi,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”17aa27421123dfa4fb2a700013fdd19c8c04217c,“刑拘陈岚”等等ITViYTU4YWE5YWQ0ZTI=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZyytbWi

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所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6EtsvMjYqemb53fKqw2KGi,你有没有发现806af320904fc3f91db78f7ab545b52a9ee24ba5,我们身边的人MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuwtbmi,也包括我们自己MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuwuLmi,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流JDViYTU4YWE5YWQ0ZWE=。一件事情出来后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuwy72i,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想KjViYTU4YWE5YWQxMzY=,眼前的事情是否是真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuw28ei,就开始宣泄我们的情绪MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuwk7mi,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤344e347622c21d9f8ede11d7292c038faae5b16e82023a1375d70d53adfa6b9638316ff9

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而且有一些人4014f061ab06d9d2750e1adc5236cd448adb149c,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuxqL2i,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感XjViYTU4YWE5YWQ0ZmM=IzViYTU4YWE5YWNjMDc=

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于是JjViYTU4YWE5YWQxNWU=,我们用来思考的路径越来越短d72a6d0248d97b8991fd8fc27aaa1154c929c654,甚至绝大部分人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuxy8ei,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!b151778c1a4f196461c8423ab18ec538

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuxzrmi,在很多事情面前KjViYTU4YWE5YWQxN2M=,我们会变得只注重表层体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuxk7Wi,注重对情绪的应激反应158fc4ae3844913b41f9019a0142da27,而不是对事情本身的深度思考288b0b2bc2b8617f1d16cf2a6b0dce3eQDViYTU4YWE5YWNjNGI=

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而如果一件事情的表层体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuyqLmi,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKuytb2i,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感IzViYTU4YWE5YWQxYTg=,更不会产生“心流”JDViYTU4YWE5YWQ1MGQ=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZ2xtbWi

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时ITViYTU4YWE5YWQxYjA=,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKu8y6mi,甚至忘却自身的体验dd34363a2d856c638baf4e2426f1744a,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKu826mi,被称之为“心流”902f6747ec97e6100fdc7d36738914069954e770MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZ2xy7Wi

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渐渐地MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKu828-i,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”af7b78c44cf2da46eeafc0146d165803,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”d25ee5f275cf67be742848e50e667533。久而久之MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKu9qKmi,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人15986d51fd73809a86a780db75717cd4,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力d7ee2e9f67efb43bbaef22f56a928bb8425465e4,你开始提不出自己的观点a05bd459757d64e67fe1b28ca474b14e,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去6cea1629a23192dd75b61c32955961c6681a754c,任意一阵强风MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKywpbWi,都能把你打翻!MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZ2x272i

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你需要重塑第一时间思考力ITViYTU4YWE5YWNjYmQ=

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第一时间思考力是可贵的57a34c258751a7f041cb1a3a85a17f6d,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的XjViYTU4YWE5YWQyMWI=,毕竟MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKywuLGi,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人JDViYTU4YWE5YWQ1MmE=JTViYTU4YWE5YWNjY2Y=

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1.  养成淘金式思维3b2ad82cbc8e0d1f17a1e0a31c2132f9f7a5cac4,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号cf008c204ab9b26a8a9a03d616af8d7d。  JDViYTU4YWE5YWNjZGU=

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGSw27GiNWJhNThhYTlhY2NmMw==

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式4243fa8b471d351d6f5eba2808d1f380,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备8e6f7ad55bdc4d6d24db8912d13c470a5451c76e,但它还有一个致命缺陷f10ca06c85a53cc904b7c308ffcb3052,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡8afa68a03324f69ccfb8f52681337935c3cb59a9QDViYTU4YWE5YWNkMDc=

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKyxpc-i,经过判断178448456c869dda12c4e64fa461100b,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGSxpbGiQDViYTU4YWE5YWNkMTc=

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后IzViYTU4YWE5YWQyNjI=,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKyxy7Gi,这就是“海绵式思维”JTViYTU4YWE5YWQ1NTI=。然后就激起了我们的情绪b19ae148408b66c57e3175d6c7977ff1,受这种愤怒情绪的支配6db1ca8d740ec9683d2ea67701bb9d2f36e74ac5,在网上大肆谩骂MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGSxtbGiefbdc6e182b125ab498823333947f2cd25e32b4d

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度NWJhNThhYTlhZDI4YQ==,事情出现后841da431e44f3e851912d802f96d9c97,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪JjViYTU4YWE5YWQyOWM=,然后有时间和耐心MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6EtsvMjYqemb53gGi9yKGi,等待真相e1015941fff4752176e8c19f8f68feae,选择吸收什么16bbc95751796a2992d55cb4053c11ac,忽略什么dfc7986562443a34ac3bd0db748c9802,进入深层次的思考JDViYTU4YWE5YWQ1NjI=9f6a0d394ba6f0e711d82f5b830aec6d

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所以96b5dd3a691101e6ab24b0d4227592f6f6c6a268,当你对事情产生质疑时KjViYTU4YWE5YWQyZDQ=,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架cf495dad2518756ff5176a2628f67c9e,也就不会做出应激行为10831fa3db9805a11cb402eadb37d238b7e194e4。这个时候MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiKy9qLWi,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6EtsvMjYqemb53gZ-x2KGi,你就会进入深度思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGSxzqmiNWJhNThhYTlhY2Q2Zg==

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷a56515d91a58560b1516d51555ac6b2ab4c393c136c4768f2ac6fa42b47c1084

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要重塑第一时间思考力IzViYTU4YWE5YWQyZmI=,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪JTViYTU4YWE5YWQzMDM=,让它不再控制你的大脑99567ac4fe656ce3e9c1af362affb4728ff650d0,变得相对理性一些a2cbe9d77a50766d16739377ebc54352dd251a3b。为了抑制“情绪先行”QDViYTU4YWE5YWQzMTc=,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进KjViYTU4YWE5YWQ1OGI=XjViYTU4YWE5YWNkYzE=

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响JjViYTU4YWE5YWQzMWY=,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯QDViYTU4YWE5YWQ1OTU=。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯538cf5db4e1199baf2ba0cda0ecd8d33,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiK2wzq2i,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚513ead524d2140e9a777372cc115ec58KjViYTU4YWE5YWNkZDM=

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比如说19f58173ba35c519e8d20ea2a88ada78,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时082257c981e397cd1e65eb92754f0ed5,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”bd11abd7e49cd2a421fa1fe7f737f53d,丧失了第一时间思考力6863874803aeef739e5333701d9a008912310677。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6EtsvMjYqemb53hGSwoqGi,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己15baa6b0a3237a1d0bea6d09c90ed0db,但前提是7d1757a027a66c0440fcb33fa58fec92,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!1c7275cdfc9bf063d082ef08f5e387e7

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例如10f03bfc7fa37abc3cebd2540009abf76e0de2da,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子0cd5648e062b9148217d3b5bb3377e47c94b64f5,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己4a1227d58cd7f30382339168261ccce0,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物ITViYTU4YWE5YWQ1YWY=。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单IzViYTU4YWE5YWQ1Yjc=JDViYTU4YWE5YWNlMTE=

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天57a3c7f74aaedf24c7f3aee079751a2141e1b51f。所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiK2ypb2i,时不时地吃点苦头”f446a7bc9f5bc6ee2f5787df1e7f5e88,说不定就会使你印象深刻eab28378b22d4f43065dbdce152593a2,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!4135d4ad5ef1fb57975afe2a889a49c37bed5df0

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其实23ee74f4b24484622c10e03b7a8d1577,学姐想说82e6ea6a3439382263f7a71362262199,当你重塑了第一时间思考力64539d7507c3ebfeb3c89bd2e2c82808,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引ITViYTU4YWE5YWQzYzA=,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格5fe3ab3183090bd4c7f412959ee62da651cb7909。而那个时候ITViYTU4YWE5YWQzYzk=,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考QDViYTU4YWE5YWQzZDE=,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGS828ei3d757c2dfd84f91139c8ffd8249af829

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:XjViYTU4YWE5YWNlNzM=

   “我希望你见到我时39f189d36764606d5c2aec5352249982a51bad93cffda2fa2efc3d85624005f1

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素b8ac0c4dedd261971c1d5789eec60ce20b4b4e8cd226b42e99db625903a835619823982354a51f37

     产生幻想e67f36f614dd3f7f64842d08397da9cdMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZ-ypb2i

     我希望你看到我96d5f02463e1fecbb869de820ba3ca3560a3b4c37fb40192be5dc9b6533934c1c3bdce96c3bd1d38

     只看到我8768a4e322ff712a3c1ae19e4cd3eb96,看到我本身MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiK29y7mib57d66672b8f6b67349a2fd888374181

     然后真正了解我本身MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGS9pcei。”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KhZ-yuL2i

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代44c1f652874a384dfbb34f17116a123fa2db593f,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格75bca57d8d779ebfb761e8f8a397b79b01c5b460。因为b30b2a5a3fc6bd0d197c3c5ac86db329b2f0a1a3,表层的人生永远被假象包围IzViYTU4YWE5YWQ0MTM=,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PtriYjY13Zr2KiGOwtbWi,它需要你活得深入且真诚!86e3799d5397f753c08784dae816f7cd4754982f

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