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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近b1eaaaf1a77aa2297b046e1631495561f733410e,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3oq2828ui。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚c3b4f1896e9950b9d157c05b153868cd,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰JTViNGYwYWQxZjJiZTk=,扯出“阴阳合同”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6dgZ2wzq2i,再到后来与范冰冰和解d1efac0b89220cf47b63f34667ea534437796b0eJjViNGYwYWQxZTZkNzQ=

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间6dba18273e509f3d5ade63d65c577cbc2e2d9030,网上也是充斥着各种评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6dgZ-xtbWi,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6dgaCxk6mi,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的5b4bfb6235d0378d116ad55d55629b95,还有大谈戏子误国的……0302794a04e7c7fc3969c4eb3a02022c

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总之MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZaQzKXMjnp4nrGtfZuwoqGi,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风91670c515c1033e535cac62c9aaec8565121a15217f836820e2cc8f7a5e356565deeda90

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事情刚出来的时候a9048949f191623448986cf9978cd63a,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义800a0141f81f90346dc5956b2655ba1e0fc6dedb,谈看法11b2b91367df597d8da6294cfb84f1469b9ef2b2,聊的火热MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3omawy8ui。只有小白一言不发c0f452fdd6fa700ddd26706c886c1b1ee15306c0,当问到她的看法时becfa36eef4eae07b8469b207d1631f12a0bea8c,小白说:ITViNGYwYWQxZTg2MGQ=

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论338cf4326faa29e7db1b1f2eb0606fd769f16c60,还是等真相出来再说吧!”c9ccae934e2fc0934b5436fbf5866688

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小白是公司新来的同事c9dd80ce761683fe3513b0f1bdfa96e91d98caa8,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6dhZuxtb2i,更少抨击话题人物0cd3463aa37f9287ec49c9cc62d256ec。就算偶尔发表意见MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6dhZyxzrmi,也总是很有自己的态度NWI0ZjBhZDFmM2Q1Yg==,不会被大家的情绪所干扰ITViNGYwYWQxZjNlNzE=,总是一副超然物外JDViNGYwYWQxZjNmOGQ=,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她eeb95ebc36e1db5d51c797a7c3d02617,也从来不会人云亦云QDViNGYwYWQxZjQxYmY=,有自己的想法b5384aab9220b5e7e822af5814727486dbe3d53d,而且常常是一针见血c6c51d3f4b7848817890a790e907d6ba37b9a386,直指问题核心f11cfc908380258da32d351a8bfc39dda0c11a23dc1ac76ccec664d9fdc50b77b950274b2d52abeb

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣ee9db63960105eb9895d3555075b619d,喜怒不形于色b7c42eda66f1c4469b913cf2c4a874b0,而且从不和大家一样站队1c58d043505df988987e49a9c18caf26,叽叽喳喳地发表意见5a52bf13ddeec508a289012f3d59bacbb735f0fe,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉b54e425f2dd9bb5329913ad5ee568ca8e05397e5。但学姐反而觉得MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3eGWxta2i,这样的小白很有魅力KjViNGYwYWQyMDljODY=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6Hn52wuLWi

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代b707f748b99e42a76aff61d169ee52cbf3cdbe58,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来NWI0ZjBhZDIwMDk1ZQ==,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3eGiyuL2i,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3eZu8y7Wi,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!845eca8417297262d15b7d5611b46426

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相fa4ae2b938dcd01469508ae6141e1a5cb3f5cf51,甚至离真相越来越远0820efd4f5459a3f7d4d0eedb81dfb54。可是当时当刻60c0eb15a757769261a26723cc3f1fb869ec2528,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”73ed674710da2d6238234afcbaebb1d10fb7a6e6,至于眼前的事实是否是真相7fe924afb50d2923920bfee785fb7938,who care呢?6ab5ed9e4d4eee081dac865b44033cc3

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但小白不一样6961694d21f6160a433440abf327a852c63d1149,学心理学出身的她MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3fKuxtcei,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:033a2fbb784285ccb144a7f91ad3ab44c1c44ad0

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“一件事情发生后JjViNGYwYWQyMDEzNGI=,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3fK2yqLmi,能引发体内激素分泌55f0ab0ed2488a627aa63a26739e882f,导致情绪浮动很大的元素5d676228afe927a077332a7dd1f41b68,直面事件本身f7d53c114ef0a5ef3ad4d4579405b6ed,看到事件核心3f1c436747867596873efe9a99c21ba29a1a37b9。”ef09b24b191643f7a9cf1858c22c0173e827e1f2

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3o6CwpamiJDViNGYwYWQxZTlkZjQ=

拒绝“性冷淡”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-EqbzbjY2Dqb6Ho5-w28ei

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”a7d5fd02e921ea0e5023269673599e74

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格f3891f64b552a75bea9615e8b728a1b598e9fd61,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式JTViNGYwYWQyMDE5ZDE=,叫“第一时间思考力”b75a04b61f042690508753ef9891dde7。指的是一件事情出来后JjViNGYwYWQyMDFhZWQ=,你在“第一时间”会想到什么fb2e19aeb8256a0dc4b8164a519068a8,会做什么5f19d8bacdb07e3b78f1f702bb80cedcc8da5b5e,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式296e9550ed36b3abf9a46d443e9058d4ff9ed4c392b99ba735451ac95a05be096fc7bfd1f89e9e8b

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考JTViNGYwYWQyMDFlMmY=,越来越少XjViNGYwYWQyMGEzMjc=。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为06b2b2c8ce264c55f63080cd23ab50bd,越来越只是情绪的出口df26c197101bda317658320f43e7a57eb569fbbb,而不是深度思考的入口f337f6e56bd50c9c632b972ec5473490455efd28ITViNGYwYWQxZWE0YWU=

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样02fde72754b1cfc15d938121850e6ee1。事情曝出来后9b1d4aed74d2e3ec97792040a9098afe,你在第一时间想的是什么?c7dc2c5e62a0ca4f7cd11c3480d1d91e4a717f49

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3gKu8272i,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病d958e7fe04de75e74042bfda6e4cd19da17a4fbd,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了NWI0ZjBhZDIwMjRjYg==,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世56313f039e5477a231dab9097dc5b69aITViNGYwYWQxZWE5MjE=

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样XjViNGYwYWQyMDI1ZTU=,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡7922a2f799b68c465899b49de9ed9a75,魔鬼在人间!”JDViNGYwYWQxZWIyMzI=

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可是后来5b58b2bb3f2d2d0a435737aaea27e190,“王凤雅事件”发生反转XjViNGYwYWQyMGE3OTA=。记者调查发现NWI0ZjBhZDIwMjkzNw==,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费IzViNGYwYWQyMDJhNGY=,凤雅确诊在后MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3gZuytami,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术JTViNGYwYWQyMGE4YWY=。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多5d105fb0f87a09d664116e0f3dddf8c2,也并不是网上说的“15万”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF6fGe9y62iNWI0ZjBhZDFlYmQ1Ng==

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这时e950375d2ec527d1e5fd63c59b3056eb,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈193a928678c9ba9775cdcdcad392a189。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了0531a1091ec115f490b4df35bed967c6a9de167c,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3gaCwpcui,“刑拘陈岚”等等b1b4b0b0a9c0e0523d8665cb63df303040ce3bae343f5ac2b27214e766d99d1d

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所以4f1d078165727b5e8a9b0c4ecb1a929209db6a74,你有没有发现MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3hKuw272i,我们身边的人7464ac561e3c600664adf98c8e4d88d49b95a360,也包括我们自己5f13bc13eeb2cc4bc76384aab8ae4957b312adc3,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流e1f9ba709d34c98dd235a7e9731b65b3。一件事情出来后376f9337bc4a2b3a93d3a529a3fe0a0d1c536800,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想5204428f5e2b972704f7bbe0445e6156cf678e78,眼前的事情是否是真相KjViNGYwYWQyMDM3OGY=,就开始宣泄我们的情绪MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3hGa9pa2i,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤be0d2ec810e3f423aa1aa7f796ca7bfe7acd0eee8ef69bfa62448235b2336740

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而且有一些人9d11223e140aa3db1067d4977730f4dc6241aa7f,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么JDViNGYwYWQyMDNhZDg=,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感8969ae0517a5f7303dec5a6ab33d5076ecbfd135d5750b1ca828c52a8db251dd

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于是JDViNGYwYWQyMDNiZWQ=,我们用来思考的路径越来越短34d3bc5732a7f5f5a03832dd0b34b6c7,甚至绝大部分人JTViNGYwYWQyMDNlMjI=,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!a3d12a6726628f0e76aab6dd8ba02842db0a057d

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后KjViNGYwYWQyMDNmMzY=,在很多事情面前0d8ad373bb44c78f51f76166758f900fd0d73d66,我们会变得只注重表层体验736b9735e9c9ef45dee0e32cabc740566238b842,注重对情绪的应激反应MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZaQzKXMjnp7qLJ3fZuxyKGi,而不是对事情本身的深度思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF6faC8tbmi2466f7948b7077314ae628c44833f47fb464f7b3

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而如果一件事情的表层体验NWI0ZjBhZDIwNDM5NQ==,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足QDViNGYwYWQyMDQ0YTk=,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感4d31dd1a809455ce0a211f80261ba29f0ad60062,更不会产生“心流”ITViNGYwYWQyMGIxOTA=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6KiGaxpbmi

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时245f3c4438fc0c6ae1917d3f53a78939,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝3abebefa4b139bd2f24029044f07b4df11e038c9,甚至忘却自身的体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-EqbzbjY2DqrF3iGew28ei,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验43ebe6e0410c79be8f36efce28dfb38e,被称之为“心流”a035b672ca71f47cc0dcb5db62b81a7d5d1430d8MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6KiGix28ui

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渐渐地eaac4169becc5769cc3762d2a610c17707d22d16,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3iZyypcui,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”ce60c4a86995cb19724d09df68279424。久而久之1fb2fc55c1c1814ed6f8254ecc61e2fd0758105d,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人QDViNGYwYWQyMDRlOTI=,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3iZ-9pbWi,你开始提不出自己的观点XjViNGYwYWQyMDUwYmM=,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去703220086cadf2034b122f53262f6519,任意一阵强风e45ffead8d13708f5eef670eb929a708,都能把你打翻!ITViNGYwYWQxZWRjOWU=

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不想失去自我1f50dbe198e9f09e929aba90a9cece09

你需要重塑第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6KjGO8ta2i

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第一时间思考力是可贵的d241ee3d538ff3f167c5bf6004a41cef,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-EqbzbjY2DqrF3jGOxpcui,毕竟1e89ea8334e95c0843608049dde980cc,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人af083a14cc30faf96960e6218dfb116a26d41e52KjViNGYwYWQxZWU3YWE=

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1.  养成淘金式思维ITViNGYwYWQyMDU3NGQ=,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号a7d7218bbe565510f108de6cf59d0237。  KjViNGYwYWQxZWU5ZDI=

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”JjViNGYwYWQyMGI3MWQ=572b784189fb771389dbde50028cfde6

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式1eea57613a26725c7f8e7414c1c2c0bb09b4adee,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备NWI0ZjBhZDIwNTk4OQ==,但它还有一个致命缺陷ITViNGYwYWQyMDVhOWI=,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡NWI0ZjBhZDIwYjg0NA==b7ca7e14aa41188aa4a39886cd87bb4557d31d0a

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度cd1db55ded9789ec7b49b5e937942e2e,经过判断MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3jZy9uK2i,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么JTViNGYwYWQyMGI5NjI=XjViNGYwYWQxZWYwNjY=

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3jZ6wpaWi,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3jZ-wtb2i,这就是“海绵式思维”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-EqbzbjY2DqrF6gGi8tb2i。然后就激起了我们的情绪bb25a897fa8057696a8844e3f87c5ce7ccc953ac,受这种愤怒情绪的支配04566656f05e111cff21bf31700965245b855b69,在网上大肆谩骂8ad7760724a7300f7c2e1ac1a21321548a1b52d8bcfcbff46595c855b5d5c007b9ef5d29

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度XjViNGYwYWQyMDYyMjY=,事情出现后JTViNGYwYWQyMDYzMzU=,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪QDViNGYwYWQyMDY0NDY=,然后有时间和耐心530a060c09132529bc0b259b245907d23f9eb011,等待真相1076f0bed9c6e3fd3e3cb2fb3360ebf5,选择吸收什么4f87b614aa71ae88ba94a832bead4d131961e7be,忽略什么IzViNGYwYWQyMDY4YWM=,进入深层次的思考QDViNGYwYWQyMGJjYjI=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6KkGixzr2i

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所以JTViNGYwYWQyMDY5YmU=,当你对事情产生质疑时88643c58171fcfd82e2046fc37d078f2,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架JTViNGYwYWQyMDZiZTY=,也就不会做出应激行为JTViNGYwYWQyMGJkY2E=。这个时候MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3kZ2wy72i,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑JTViNGYwYWQyMDZlMDU=,你就会进入深度思考548091cd33628abc9fb64fd570e644b1MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-EqbzbjY2Dqb6KkZy8tcei

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷5c5be0aa70cbe912bcb6e7bd16efd0e9bc12fe4c9332bb261e38466b18697fe97f48ad49

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要重塑第一时间思考力1bd8036e87e2736011e28f4f8358d758,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3kaCxuLWi,让它不再控制你的大脑bbdb38bcfcc568e1068ab8bd74c25a20,变得相对理性一些JDViNGYwYWQyMGMxMjQ=。为了抑制“情绪先行”XjViNGYwYWQyMDcyNGM=,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进244c98417d96110e0aa15a58d672d6039592fe1abbd5737c7b451737d72509c1

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响JDViNGYwYWQyMDczNWI=,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯JDViNGYwYWQyMGMzNWQ=。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯92dd62150ee739bf3de1eb1b59f3c40a,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑2db8e5bd23c9e294cd743ca8624bd4c7,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚d2352a92b8b156425e13756b3cdd8bb9MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6deGe9uK2i

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比如说a813efde46a274f6947ad00aec2a7c3a172ca4e6,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时97543c160f10672ed2f60b3c8c706715,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”7988f39becab5ebfc9a5553c55a267c4025d2224,丧失了第一时间思考力QDViNGYwYWQyMGM1OTM=。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题80b58915df50f6d71d94e03f9da8626c1d95e0d0,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己94dbb0bc1e1eed3a8e8d5bf4dc4c1006,但前提是f165e9a57d4f5e1aa0bd39d243db40594290740b,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!e301ea8311f4c22cdcf31dccae69ab94

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例如06e33540a125c7be9871ba443bb7a5d078621013,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子a79bb6f2a258c69072ad9e2a7ed6475a2dce4712,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己IzViNGYwYWQyMDdmOTA=,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物d90a5a59cece0cd1fa9adef952f398bcd1c39739。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单XjViNGYwYWQyMGM3Y2I=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6dfKuytami

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天bd2b82dac9ae0e4d2c8124ca46257191c35c9d56。所以NWI0ZjBhZDIwODBhZQ==,时不时地吃点苦头”7dd77e3849636082ad73bbbbb23bb1bc,说不定就会使你印象深刻MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3nqywqLWi,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-EqbzbjY2Dqb6dfK28zrmi

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其实1793a38d7e126efac3dbcb32e2accf1d,学姐想说MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3nmOxpa2i,当你重塑了第一时间思考力ddf93a3a0dd0c0f6e56ca0e73eb6cd38,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引2aab176fbcd7945b3e32f417b5af3d3b,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格48efb478a8cca812c55404d00e39083e3f0300b3。而那个时候46f23a8ee92b0c1d9e24c96632fbf76f,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3nme8y6Wi,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙JjViNGYwYWQyMGNiMTk=QDViNGYwYWQxZjFjM2U=

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:7e36764ec4202ee2fe5a264c4db3968e0395eeaa

   “我希望你见到我时be06be303fc1332e57458edecfe6403bd1f5e834MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2Dqb6dfZ-8zr2i

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3n5u9tbmib6f6a72148eb8697a63a82162385d6806fd4c04b

     产生幻想ccf92a015f1bf364eb5f30169a665c9341c21929e53fafcf310ff0e9d559c4f92aa197e6

     我希望你看到我9bdbe9e2aed1e1c58f5253257f3d0b62483728a25fb4df75f673d73f575a703821403fdd

     只看到我ad11a3801fdac657b5d361b6e82d31e6,看到我本身05a3a237b6d255e1eebd79a087c6f8027435f9e2efe4ab6c60319e61afd0130a630a9fb7

     然后真正了解我本身d2fcffbd65e899336fe610d9b017a2d6bf43482e。”e8e28626beccd8ffbcaca16bb57c7d98

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-EqbzbjY2DqrF3n6CxqLGi,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格cb974d28b9d5be52ddeb91198827bc10。因为JjViNGYwYWQyMDkxM2U=,表层的人生永远被假象包围70f1030783a7f566b50a88615ccfa3df4db733ca,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美5ef819061b7dcfebd80a2b02b2dea83b3a40fa34,它需要你活得深入且真诚!90ebb720ee0b3fc909d560caaffc819d15b6c171

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