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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近JjViMmNkYWI1ZTA0N2M=,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬ITViMmNkYWI1ZWIxZjI=。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HeGO826Wi,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰e376f604e52dea44d004d3c5c46a6c59,扯出“阴阳合同”JDViMmNkYWI1ZTA3Y2E=,再到后来与范冰冰和解39bb79ef872ab9625e7414476aea999e97e0f7ecMDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInLJ3o5y8sqGi

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间7aebf212063d452cd2a02cbc104c8a621937c4da,网上也是充斥着各种评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HeGiwy7Wi,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的ac30bc0935194a094259bb2e0dd41c43,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的27271d77aaba24f299a2f45c48a66638,还有大谈戏子误国的……MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr53jKuwzrGi

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总之MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HeZ2x27Wi,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风0ccbe0627eec0694c55d843396510dc901a740a55c5da035d27aa5f7c084870241f1ff6b

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事情刚出来的时候MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HeZ6yqK2i,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HeZ-8tcui,谈看法9fa15b29b0630952113c6172e203838537f36fbb,聊的火热0e4f368aa9a2b2bc26c14f6603a812af3f40cf1e。只有小白一言不发MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HfKq9qKmi,当问到她的看法时MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HfKu9y6mi,小白说:KjViMmNkYWI1ZDYyZmI=

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInbGHhKq9oqGi,还是等真相出来再说吧!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInLKdiGO9yKGi

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小白是公司新来的同事JjViMmNkYWI1ZTE1MDE=,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论IzViMmNkYWI1ZTE2MWE=,更少抨击话题人物MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KgGSxk7Gi。就算偶尔发表意见f8b2f408847ba20e32c4430d32b8cbf5,也总是很有自己的态度36ee611b634399eb7fb9cd445f8e310ea09bdbaf,不会被大家的情绪所干扰37433d133ed2ff1d79b40f14d32132f74119725f,总是一副超然物外JTViMmNkYWI1ZTFhN2Q=,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInbGKfZ2xsqGi,也从来不会人云亦云NWIyY2RhYjVlMWNjMQ==,有自己的想法521c5868bc0b94941195604f2e47c5ad574eca49,而且常常是一针见血71eea94baa69ba7f8342e789d8ba7859,直指问题核心XjViMmNkYWI1ZWI3NjM=10e86adf8697c0195e7a201fb462c315ec85c017

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣163e810ce13612f4f676e466d45cf667,喜怒不形于色1c360dcd44169f6789866d1c694f5729,而且从不和大家一样站队3dee274eecad2dcc253861881842fd78d88d106a,叽叽喳喳地发表意见IzViMmNkYWI1ZTIzNWM=,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉c66e3ea1251b53329bc27058c1ac45da4a5b5d6b。但学姐反而觉得ITViMmNkYWI1ZTI0NzM=,这样的小白很有魅力ITViMmNkYWI1ZWI5ODg=c5a9021d6781187f5ab621386568dd03

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInbGdiZy82KGi,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInbGdjZ-wyKGi,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言c095d3280f3ba0edc879a2b5b36ff82eebaf35bf,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂b77180c8900f99deb0fd069a8ed74179,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr53kZu8y62i

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HgGiwzrGi,甚至离真相越来越远IzViMmNkYWI1ZWJhYTA=。可是当时当刻MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HgZuxpbWi,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HgZyxuK2i,至于眼前的事实是否是真相JDViMmNkYWI1ZTJkNDM=,who care呢?ITViMmNkYWI1ZDZkYzM=

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但小白不一样09ece61a510dfee0cea2cbfee0176011c77cdd3d,学心理学出身的她JjViMmNkYWI1ZTJmNzA=,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:4adfe895ad497744d59ac56b859666d1a770d409

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“一件事情发生后NWIyY2RhYjVlMzA4Yw==,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HhKq8k72i,能引发体内激素分泌JTViMmNkYWI1ZTMyYzU=,导致情绪浮动很大的元素73f0c4770c2561e28cd8fb30c042996da09ded33,直面事件本身59d19cc595c654fc232bffc0ab8d1f38f7c389b7,看到事件核心f181a915ab0fe9861d2a5c3e387a0f11dd946222。”QDViMmNkYWI1ZDc3YjU=

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KgZy9y72iJjViMmNkYWI1ZDc5ZjA=

拒绝“性冷淡”072a993a643c4149b3eac6acbccfe5cf

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr53m5yxqKmi

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格34a9296b7cc9bdbbb1e01c04b1d335bba1b71cd1,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式171f806308439a1e3c2fd32417eb40a3,叫“第一时间思考力”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KgZ6wpc-i。指的是一件事情出来后936726799a27f7a50902ba74501d5de285b9809e,你在“第一时间”会想到什么JTViMmNkYWI1ZTM5NTk=,会做什么eea0506501442b8c59bda334f717c86fe378285a,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式7f385ff48f65ef2cc3331d238e91716b14dc6104a90539c0e50e74309a3e6cf1d1e61b3c

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HhZu8zqmi,越来越少QDViMmNkYWI1ZWMwMDg=。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HhZy9paWi,越来越只是情绪的出口7c4f9394b3ddf056b908dc54210aa173,而不是深度思考的入口ITViMmNkYWI1ZWMxMjM=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr53m6C8uL2i

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KhKuxy72i。事情曝出来后XjViMmNkYWI1ZTNlZDI=,你在第一时间想的是什么?NWIyY2RhYjVkODJjZQ==

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出IzViMmNkYWI1ZTNmZWI=,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInbJ3eK2xsqGi,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了KjViMmNkYWI1ZTQyMmQ=,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInb2tgGewoqGiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr53nmOw27mi

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样JjViMmNkYWI1ZTQzNDY=,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡JjViMmNkYWI1ZTQ0NWU=,魔鬼在人间!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr53n56wpami

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可是后来MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInbJ3iZu8sqGi,“王凤雅事件”发生反转7a9db4c0464beef907c8b8d281d8b9a7。记者调查发现MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HiGS827Gi,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费639c1165777fd886b13d0b61b308774d,凤雅确诊在后NWIyY2RhYjVlNDhkNA==,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KhGO8tcei。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HiGiwtcui,也并不是网上说的“15万”QDViMmNkYWI1ZWM2YTI=NWIyY2RhYjVkOThkOQ==

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这时JjViMmNkYWI1ZTRiMGE=,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KhGW9tbWi。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HiZyxqLWi,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”IzViMmNkYWI1ZTRkM2U=,“刑拘陈岚”等等XjViMmNkYWI1ZWM4Y2Q=XjViMmNkYWI1ZDliMDQ=

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所以NWIyY2RhYjVlNGU1Yg==,你有没有发现c09c6c7524030db7f344bbdf7ba2a401,我们身边的人502dfab4be15a49669c506636f7495cd34039f5c,也包括我们自己2a10528a8caf1cd54e4fac19358066708fb4e5d1,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流1369c0cced7d000a6a253d04e86fa80f48824ec9。一件事情出来后709ca83db9311bc9534cdbcbd56581d344147df7,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HjK2wpcui,眼前的事情是否是真相39fa3678fd2b999e5414628ed48a1020cd39443a,就开始宣泄我们的情绪5ec3ccb1b0614fdc3bd2c39fe0cecac9,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤009a605b5b6309f3c0f145878ad1c6e22813fc2aeea76a3b1c2b15c48b5a74e1ffb53483

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而且有一些人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HjGWxy72i,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么42e4e59a8162a92cbda992fb6ae39fd5,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感e601b42689fe88de2392d6d44323fd78603ea0ad397def5b18a97ad18750a828ad15d575

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于是20eafd636544c37c0c62969e91b0118d,我们用来思考的路径越来越短MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HjGi8y8-i,甚至绝大部分人JTViMmNkYWI1ZTViYTM=,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!de0fe2a679c85c1407f8d5ed9882c572

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后JjViMmNkYWI1ZTVjYmE=,在很多事情面前304a46cd6b0643d56efa0ab2d765f8ec,我们会变得只注重表层体验cf66fe155994175fe450553050811656,注重对情绪的应激反应ff824a61088eac16b8b2ba4ab04d043b,而不是对事情本身的深度思考XjViMmNkYWI1ZWNkMWY=86c97db1d49036e07e2778bf589a8588

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而如果一件事情的表层体验24dcefec8f87b532f39a4d5be811769b742e0fc7,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HkKuxy6Wi,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感JDViMmNkYWI1ZTYzNTE=,更不会产生“心流”64d40ebcddc7f57a57dbff04c7414831MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr56gKyxzqmi

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时72f07edfddcc4ca08a4ac307152f0fe39f02ddcd,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HkGO8y7mi,甚至忘却自身的体验69fae513e5cfacdd7a70271e258ad8c9,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验4eb377ac80f66e804b079e16d480dc1f5697d6ab,被称之为“心流”441e76a03d3b7b855aa01d3bd97974716f855de791165c5eb08c10c93bceff95

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渐渐地MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HkGa9zrGi,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”ed11fe8152a19a3b2f551cb6ecef3de515260b7b,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”08e650b4426c11d3f5f11e5b30c9cef4。久而久之b97ae0ec83fac8357ebde087caea0110302ed1ed,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HkZyxpami,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力ITViMmNkYWI1ZTZkMmE=,你开始提不出自己的观点JjViMmNkYWI1ZTZlNDE=,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HkZ-ypbGi,任意一阵强风ff2d2e7f500107b88f8e9057d6f2f4056549a480,都能把你打翻!fa6254bc8f4d73c9a3ba5c16e65039b374ecd093

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你需要重塑第一时间思考力5588bbb221eb790ff97e227628c7c625

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第一时间思考力是可贵的MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6Hmqq8zrGi,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6Hmqu9pc-i,毕竟MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6Hmqy9y6Wi,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人650e02c8eb24fa3a81a9bde434f0ed18MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr56hKywzr2i

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1.  养成淘金式思维MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HmmOwqLmi,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号fd2739d261030b094efa0f3392bf3d0b71a9ee7c。  JjViMmNkYWI1ZGM1MzQ=

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”ITViMmNkYWI1ZWQzYjg=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr56hGWyqLmi

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式XjViMmNkYWI1ZTc1ZmY=,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HmmWxpa2i,但它还有一个致命缺陷e2aa5e0e3f2ea3f8ad2b00f264270b38a24c91eb,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡542adfd59cc194688c80a1b7486c2038b7c7b873JjViMmNkYWI1ZGM5ODk=

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度8fcf419622b1300e6e30c0fc24746420,经过判断MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6Hmmi8ta2i,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么d3a1bef2603978c7fae49c12ab5e4a1f232b24feJDViMmNkYWI1ZGNiYTQ=

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后JDViMmNkYWI1ZTdiOTY=,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息91411f0f4eda3893a6b1c02f33f5af46,这就是“海绵式思维”eca012ed01f7ac07afd423e08a1b8c5ac5fdfdb2。然后就激起了我们的情绪dd2effa2954c8be498efdecce8d225ed,受这种愤怒情绪的支配64f784cbee0aa51219d62800e0cde3e5,在网上大肆谩骂MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KiGaw27WiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr56iKywk7Gi

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度66d5bbabebe1aeef371629ac186dc45c,事情出现后a552fe6e359224e83f5b60cb77f1718be77aa41e,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪ca57b4f9955ebc60826c0a4d7a8561e7,然后有时间和耐心MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6Hnqyxk62i,等待真相JjViMmNkYWI1ZTg0N2M=,选择吸收什么688e21408a67043ad052017bfbe9bd859870d3ba,忽略什么JTViMmNkYWI1ZTg2YTg=,进入深层次的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KiGexpceiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr56iGOxy7Wi

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所以14693fa054602ee7be9b7ed3625136234537b3c2,当你对事情产生质疑时415f1d67aece4a6d88b06b0b182b20bafd7ab09f,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架53b652906e033de959f55ab44666a32a9ff1c57f,也就不会做出应激行为576efc6007f846f12eca4e2d94294ac0。这个时候NWIyY2RhYjVlOGIyNQ==,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑NWIyY2RhYjVlOGM0Nw==,你就会进入深度思考JDViMmNkYWI1ZWRiNDY=QDViMmNkYWI1ZGQ3MzU=

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷4a50e0d3346cd208e10a72a97f5d205a8ecaf638d833fdda3359c82c8f731e9f029eb675

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要重塑第一时间思考力b262b99650266d15e2a7f3054e3890b65357dc19,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪ab33de86b5a3cbe31e84b2ee3cb2877a2f61a6ee,让它不再控制你的大脑f8375d34fa36c801733a4ac563ef2e7b,变得相对理性一些5cfcc65018bb389e8c2a4f44a53e7adb。为了抑制“情绪先行”13dc3d07a60511ca144be78d8057b822,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KiZ68uLmi122ecf5a55e387872d13889d5344e4ab55812be2

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响09c37fcee6db3c5f01dd0b6b53e0ddeb,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯ITViMmNkYWI1ZWRmOTE=。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯dd3743b7f27925d2d08f617ad3f388f5,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑NWIyY2RhYjVlOTNlOA==,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚705bf9fbf60464aac7f3a93e86161fe5f526243dd3822dca9459dba66c598488ffe1df49

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比如说3dbb123735cc17c1ec229c712a0a5aab,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时ITViMmNkYWI1ZTk2MDM=,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”d35fc5637a19c8a34d7a356de58e0de7f8ccd355,丧失了第一时间思考力5dcb9263964e0453cec3adc1a161eea6d51fec0c。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6HomaxtbGi,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己fb6ea91006db98ad77033168c40e537a83000632,但前提是JjViMmNkYWI1ZTlhM2I=,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!QDViMmNkYWI1ZGU2YjA=

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例如KjViMmNkYWI1ZTliNTM=,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子JjViMmNkYWI1ZTljNjE=,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己02d7d15a4188777fdfd689790484d8ab8aa3795d,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物KjViMmNkYWI1ZWUyYzM=。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KjK2wpbWiMDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInL6KhGaysqGi

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天c440f311262918493d80bfd55205725d613b8929。所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6Ho568y7mi,时不时地吃点苦头”8af1efc8bc79eae17613e87e589e61c673c99a95,说不定就会使你印象深刻bac15904a044dca8d3c7db8b5d266c51,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!0e1f79be4c65903bb54f23373e5c49e2

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其实MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KfKq9tb2i,学姐想说271eed17726f5f1d5668430082665da21e4dd540,当你重塑了第一时间思考力e92296d64598b425b5c487129d331e44d8092fb9,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引JDViMmNkYWI1ZWE0ZDY=,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格a85a3f7b6357c11d5c9cce013cfe69875db28a75。而那个时候302562c38dd818e9ea8332d8183ff65d,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考38023f1b496d19c01c1cf74b293182d2,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙ce17bdd04db555ce999dbda58df525c169a4461e26f552bc6963306352ff97bf425f959c

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:QDViMmNkYWI1ZGY5NjU=

   “我希望你见到我时7fb23118daea153f89f982e05ff04ef1MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr56kGi8tcui

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KfGextbmiITViMmNkYWI1ZGZiOTI=

     产生幻想fcada97e52d743069e9bf2dd44cf7e340c1b27870fce9cdf34441812f2e778a76ca1860b15303aea

     我希望你看到我b809943448478643291763fc0343c362XjViMmNkYWI1ZGZkZDI=

     只看到我199c78dc10749456fd84e35f36f58320,看到我本身JjViMmNkYWI1ZWFjNzU=XjViMmNkYWI1ZGZlZjQ=

     然后真正了解我本身MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-PlLXMjaCInb6HnmaxsqGi。”4a8779dc4170077e3c8376684939aca5

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代4d7ab66c323aa31e4cf12034c100ec0f,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格804914bff29b748b380db93a94f736912a6f65ce。因为JDViMmNkYWI1ZWFlOWU=,表层的人生永远被假象包围MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7HPjY17Yr6KfZ-9qL2i,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美6caa64441825f56c262d39c4f7e05439a74a2a2d,它需要你活得深入且真诚!KjViMmNkYWI1ZTAxMjI=

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