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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-E3LSUgoqam753nmawzrGi,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬8dcef47c914145b8d2f12a213244892feff3a9b9。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚379ef3ca9a0580b702bb5d38b9e5c357b7e93b6f,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰748920509e7dedcb9ebee5bda93aaf1223209a45,扯出“阴阳合同”25b9e46a8983f912febeb663c92d559f068b8c4e,再到后来与范冰冰和解MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-E3LSUgoqam76HhGawzr2iJDViNzQ0NThjY2NiZjk=

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间23fa5125717c9ba2df223c1f2d7d3bb0aaa0fc79,网上也是充斥着各种评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-E3LSUgoqam753n52828ei,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的JTViNzQ0NThjZDhlYjU=,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的5d8add209bf56af797aa24daae07ee45,还有大谈戏子误国的……1d7dbb621f94e4c06e0d1ab2c793369a

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总之1aaa7d1874d388ef4f53099acdb2cdc8,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风NWI3NDQ1OGNlMzkyNA==a0619ca0086fa1aae0956efdea2cde55

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事情刚出来的时候MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-E3LSUgoqam753oquwzrmi,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义cf06e588c0905841f6e08c89574eebee,谈看法f2fd2b6fbfad92a9769eb18dc7996420622871dc,聊的火热NWI3NDQ1OGNlM2E0NA==。只有小白一言不发1713ab85aadb5de5d02ac645646bec84e1347f47,当问到她的看法时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-E3LSUgoqam753omSyuLGi,小白说:b58cdb2cce129ee4c0295de872f16c1b1ef5ab99

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论bc84e490acfc3d75da40b190880ce48c,还是等真相出来再说吧!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-E3LSUgoqam71ljGW8k62i

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小白是公司新来的同事MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam753oma9pbmi,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论4687b68fbd653f9d950ecd153e9b8e8863416f07,更少抨击话题人物4b90003ebb053a76ac2ec85d1c6ff9027bc540a2。就算偶尔发表意见9bc8bd243fce3fe60d436fe17c987330,也总是很有自己的态度XjViNzQ0NThjZDliZjg=,不会被大家的情绪所干扰MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnLOKhGOwsqGi,总是一副超然物外IzViNzQ0NThjZDllMzM=,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她KjViNzQ0NThjZDlmNGI=,也从来不会人云亦云MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-E3LSUgoqam753o6CyqLWi,有自己的想法JjViNzQ0NThjZGExODI=,而且常常是一针见血21cf7b2b57285560edccce1285f534523a1c1435,直指问题核心MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HhZy8tcuiae3b764a242ffdfb05f76d92ba3e1aea

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣7a20a3dbd09d0b4dc98b22e56249bbe5,喜怒不形于色JDViNzQ0NThjZGE0Y2E=,而且从不和大家一样站队c3aa786243ecb6eda4589fd5c991091c,叽叽喳喳地发表意见4900aae8c065c95697d0fed3aaedcb50735d6378,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉eeaa43b7629d5dd41789aa1220b819e54b349b6b。但学姐反而觉得091066aceb8059c8c076bb4c8e0f7918,这样的小白很有魅力MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam76HhZ69pcuiaa9082eae4bc39458ae1a24ccd9f8321dced88b1

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代363b7ece3932e72a9bff482e689c8552e437716a,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来868c67ee4dbad21a47b1be700e0b8a29,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言9d3c991b9a2627c1d8d0f73212b80a41,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-E3LSUgoqam756fZy8ta2i,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!7f067ea6b18392aa4e19c1f997e9f0b2

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相b742376cc0f3650a3e456671197220beb5ad6bfc,甚至离真相越来越远616abb07dc802b06e7e98b14adb93e95。可是当时当刻90db53fec9a84832d8be4f1abd4baed5,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”04af4778ade9349295b5ba049797df7a,至于眼前的事实是否是真相b51847c1b5ba887932446de80d9344aec430c27b,who care呢?0da5702502f28b76a5d57783614fd5b0206b9f3c

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但小白不一样17501b352b60648966dce58201e97faea1129463,学心理学出身的她MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam756gKyxta2i,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:6054ee56fadc5a833656e583262b1674

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“一件事情发生后MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnL2dhGawoqGi,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-E3LSUgoqam756gGOypcui,能引发体内激素分泌0a182471c4e5f70a5922808aa3d3f02e,导致情绪浮动很大的元素MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam756gGW827Wi,直面事件本身989599803717c3d1fc033022d5c366f2c0aacdbd,看到事件核心acd9c6a076e75f1fc70ba1b4a8305b1e。”JTViNzQ0NThjY2ZiMGY=

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”JjViNzQ0NThjZTQyMDY=f5c5caa0b799db1d7ee6beff92a08168

拒绝“性冷淡”IzViNzQ0NThjY2ZlNjc=

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”XjViNzQ0NThjY2ZmODU=

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam756gGe8k7Wi,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式JDViNzQ0NThjZGJhYzI=,叫“第一时间思考力”966e55eb76fa2fb3874220062f4d7b1b883a885f。指的是一件事情出来后MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnL2ggKq8yKGi,你在“第一时间”会想到什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam756gZ2wy7Gi,会做什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnL2giGOyoqGi,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式31975bca7cf716f0a96423fe76a8b458d142ef24MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam753eKq9ta2i

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考dee5afb203e13f439bec32813a710a7a,越来越少MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-E3LSUgoqam76HiGOyqK2i。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为51bc5f6d3e878d5a39346cc428b060bc,越来越只是情绪的出口8f8c9be81a64731e335ad14feb1371ee,而不是深度思考的入口d0e1fa8097fe8a50592e6b877320f414KjViNzQ0NThjZDAzZjA=

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样QDViNzQ0NThjZTQ3OTU=。事情曝出来后6fdc583ca355d622285fd43385ef9362,你在第一时间想的是什么?58ad13da103e5e6739498f59995c1c76d07a6842

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出55bc81cbec30a862b7eaaad5da053c96,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病IzViNzQ0NThjZGM0Yzk=,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了c21a6bd6a77c7c2f6504c72631605313597e8126,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-E3LSUgoqam76HiGa9pc-iMDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam753eGayqLWi

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样7386bb6409833e3d9e8ac3b643e03f23,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam756hGaxqLWi,魔鬼在人间!”79f57c0a35713217f46a13eee613b9fc

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可是后来MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-E3LSUgoqam756hGexy72i,“王凤雅事件”发生反转3ec50bd8927a8ffd09e923982eeca351c9779369。记者调查发现387419245f63cc5f01519990309c2f75,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-E3LSUgoqam756hZuytc-i,凤雅确诊在后70e34c87fbbef44a97d51407c494fa5d,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术690ef36a68dd9be210d31021c918fe2b4cd74e3c。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam756hZ29pbmi,也并不是网上说的“15万”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-E3LSUgoqam76HiZywzrWiNWI3NDQ1OGNkMWM1NQ==

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这时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-E3LSUgoqam756hZ69uLWi,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈ITViNzQ0NThjZTRkMWM=。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了JTViNzQ0NThjZGNmZDk=,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnL53eKywyKGi,“刑拘陈岚”等等JTViNzQ0NThjZTRlNDA=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-E3LSUgoqam753fZ68y6Wi

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所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam756iKuwk72i,你有没有发现5d00861cfd67d200d5d24ecd326de91b,我们身边的人IzViNzQ0NThjZGQ0NDg=,也包括我们自己fce56529be36e6397ac53e7cc5191112,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流5cf69f661ccf9e9de7328346d0cbe74b59f1188d。一件事情出来后af17610aa462663b540c6640829e016451aed1f8,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想e55642765cd6167d232b52563ce9ecb57c07ce5b,眼前的事情是否是真相KjViNzQ0NThjZGQ4Yjc=,就开始宣泄我们的情绪0e103ee55ffd5b223fd9c3f443eb1331,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-E3LSUgoqam76HiaCyuLWiJTViNzQ0NThjZDI5N2Q=

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而且有一些人0c61b5f87811cc6570e745d0552ba1842cddbffa,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam756iZywzq2i,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感NWI3NDQ1OGNlNTE5Mg==IzViNzQ0NThjZDJiYjA=

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于是MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnL56hGSwoqGi,我们用来思考的路径越来越短MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-E3LSUgoqam756iZ6x27Wi,甚至绝大部分人b8d7db29ed7da4fe89c452da65a9bf13,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!JjViNzQ0NThjZDJkZTU=

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后ITViNzQ0NThjZGUwODE=,在很多事情面前143b6afe34feb301eaadc8c6f00ea503310c8665,我们会变得只注重表层体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnL6HfZ-wsqGi,注重对情绪的应激反应121bd8ccd0f196301d2208600db6c6cd,而不是对事情本身的深度思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HjKu9pceiMDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-E3LSUgoqam753hK28y6Wi

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而如果一件事情的表层体验86b953c1bb9533cd25684c46de9e2af069214e0b,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam756jGSw26Wi,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感JDViNzQ0NThjZGU3MjM=,更不会产生“心流”3cf45c4f7178f06cd9d6e544c95344ea9af0343569ceafd93475bdb84f9219f06a85dd11d1118320

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时e90dd5ffbf92bc7019dade4e31b74574,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝878a88f989bd92ae91a2fd0a0d06e21e,甚至忘却自身的体验e1f9cfc317c247bba519d3456b150f7217475de5,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验ITViNzQ0NThjZGViOGQ=,被称之为“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam76HjGOwqKmiJDViNzQ0NThjZDM4Zjg=

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渐渐地1ec4e6d5311e633696751840b7b96da2,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-E3LSUgoqam756jZ29uK2i,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”3e6dcc2683ce3435fced626d9c0eda26。久而久之MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-E3LSUgoqam756jZ-wpa2i,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-E3LSUgoqam756jaCwuKmi,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力2d754f1f5409275aad11e0dfface7c4f,你开始提不出自己的观点MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnL6dfGS8yKGi,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去dbeccf1867b38f5dda22a1a206b1ca36a10c64f6,任意一阵强风MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-E3LSUgoqam756kK2ytaWi,都能把你打翻!10f99b4ba25fd4ae100e1dcd8050eac7

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你需要重塑第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-E3LSUgoqam753iK2wk6mi

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第一时间思考力是可贵的eb3d421cbeb2b7b4e38c4def0b32e23ed0d216d4,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的6b62a3894eec0aec0f973100ffd6813a12d6ba4f,毕竟MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam756kGW9uLGi,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人bec1597b233efb7287955098221569987ca98068b4546fa4e96d9deee6b1fcf5446b1dbe

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1.  养成淘金式思维ca024d841f9f9c45b997f7a816e0f8ce707decf6,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号JDViNzQ0NThjZTU4M2I=。  87531b09db37ebd98db4380063d303f617358f4c

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnbKHnmexoqGidc9cbd1d14e99cdf44795d1ab8ac5ff60ba24214

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式996aba4cd169349a744df275cb10d2bc,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备d3d7b85533925bfa723f2d4a694094d172d3185e,但它还有一个致命缺陷ITViNzQ0NThjZGZjMzA=,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡dc40cb9d5a35b1d579aedafa40b05afc9fad19437e4cf0cf9eebb2780c90f1a69c1d2820

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度2126a2381e5a340e651602e53778a0cc,经过判断JjViNzQ0NThjZGZlNjk=,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么791ce574d44074afbd98f36ba1e50edf978a96c7XjViNzQ0NThjZDRlZjg=

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgZmEprSVg32AnL6gjZywyKGi,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息cfe00abe5bed7ad8a13ba3185a80c27e,这就是“海绵式思维”39d84cd13b1d4bf463c4a0a2552bf9dd。然后就激起了我们的情绪MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam76HeKq9tbmi,受这种愤怒情绪的支配7ff6ba073d8f6328abb62e8304cae84a2d3bae9c,在网上大肆谩骂MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HjZ29uLGiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam753jGS8tc-i

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam76HeK2wuLGi,事情出现后67c4c674bcea846958d665158ebdd95b,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪a8b6dea4752e6ed7b78b34e38be3e6d4,然后有时间和耐心XjViNzQ0NThjZTA3NDY=,等待真相6e1825e77ebecb26dd32758f69621e5d0e8e5db7,选择吸收什么968cd969b4846ddb0cf0862dd6f0ba2a,忽略什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam76HeGi8zqmi,进入深层次的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HjZ-wpbGi8c49d5e80083fe90b693e5d1dae3b5af

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所以ITViNzQ0NThjZTBiYjk=,当你对事情产生质疑时bcc243fedb1399f97756942f183abccaed90d177,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架acce730085781baa035a41d1fbfb46da20b26961,也就不会做出应激行为2fa4ed00429e77b93fcf44e610343de7。这个时候2b182ae1a73d8086444ad00d592eee10c4e8cc97,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑5e99e85dfdc484d549023a644684a908,你就会进入深度思考JTViNzQ0NThjZTYxNjE=KjViNzQ0NThjZDVhZDM=

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷22e1418713f1c9e95b346cb4f358b05dd8b7ae06a431637a52a76a2b56b81a87bd15df460bd36265

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要重塑第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-E3LSUgoqam76HfKqxy7Gi,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪9d9a75b65133e49991d8af322e04f8fb,让它不再控制你的大脑JjViNzQ0NThjZTEzODA=,变得相对理性一些MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HkKy9pa2i。为了抑制“情绪先行”cfe069e5fb30ee42dcb97b6c3fe02a74cb41866d,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-E3LSUgoqam76HkK29y6mia3cfb3aca8bada3708a23305a524524f

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响23df703e3c8753b6f377e4e72b64f94f,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯JTViNzQ0NThjZTY1ZTQ=。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-E3LSUgoqam76HfGS9y7Wi,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam76HfGawqLmi,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚576abb692554dea2d62c3a359a3197f5MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-E3LSUgoqam753kGawzrmi

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比如说f8e8d110363ce8fd9b0e18fe600ee1b0,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-E3LSUgoqam76HfGixpb2i,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”KjViNzQ0NThjZTFiMzk=,丧失了第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-E3LSUgoqam76HkGaxpa2i。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题NWI3NDQ1OGNlMWM1Nw==,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己JTViNzQ0NThjZTFkNmY=,但前提是MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HfZ68y62i,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!88ac84bd3d8be378a65b6feda49bcabf591e163a

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例如7cb25313bd1676ef19695c91ce059980,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子a2d7ab65edcefa68268c8499b3bea668,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己59b46edcef9fd85cd8a368302476eab4832dec17,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物8e37b2e0ad50c6fe676ff905ff3ff755ff4c084e。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HkGiypaWi40a63863dacd9ce508fd426919182d6097b3b4fd

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天d998998b41afbe0a5c1e936d9410f9ba9541697d。所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HgKywtc-i,时不时地吃点苦头”JTViNzQ0NThjZTI0MDc=,说不定就会使你印象深刻a24768e13fdb4b9ce086b65d8b1fd9829f694bf5,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!bb177b07207fe7b67540133686eb18585dc014ea

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其实JDViNzQ0NThjZTI2Mzk=,学姐想说ea2a756b9dd4ef2a7a1b3fb90bf5477d,当你重塑了第一时间思考力17a4dec6262c63e86116bd63d4331f41,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引1ef7de9e95bfdc4a5dc523fec6eece3959f0de4b,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-E3LSUgoqam76HkZy8zrGi。而那个时候4accb671fe91774d9505a2197b3cb3656fac061e,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考XjViNzQ0NThjZTJiYzQ=,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-E3LSUgoqam76HkZ29pb2iIzViNzQ0NThjZDdhYjY=

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:843d6e9c72b0f0e1763120170da7a5c7880a2728

   “我希望你见到我时XjViNzQ0NThjZTJjZGU=6c1797438d287bfe5e0875a7cb0ac386

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素2b9f7c09ab8320496995f66ccb92e31188660d9945c81e57c329eddd2b5b873f

     产生幻想3eb6bcb1e597a3e62ceef778417c3844ITViNzQ0NThjZDgwMzU=

     我希望你看到我MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-E3LSUgoqam76HgZ-wk62i981f7affd51cf2690bd3b3b11429612a1cf2ac7e

     只看到我0109130e14cf165a89203df5d2c7b78ada282fc1,看到我本身JTViNzQ0NThjZTMxNTc=687bd03da77a69efc13c5e307b35e8a4

     然后真正了解我本身62acabe19e51c155acb3f98ac68c2b8d。”80f57b263cfd0183a77996e51098bbe0

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam76HhKuyuK2i,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam76Hmqqwy7mi。因为MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-E3LSUgoqam76HhKy8y7Wi,表层的人生永远被假象包围MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-E3LSUgoqam76HhK28k7Gi,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美JDViNzQ0NThjZTM1Yzc=,它需要你活得深入且真诚!86200b25059a1581f222defe875342289e1be7b2

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