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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近ITVkMDhmZTZjMDUzOTY=,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGe826mi。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK2ytcui,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK28ta2i,扯出“阴阳合同”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK28uK2i,再到后来与范冰冰和解a12d13076a7b30feb3228bd1f6d76f972ca349a0NWQwOGZlNmMwNGRkOQ==

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK28y7Gi,网上也是充斥着各种评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK28zrGi,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的48658e56e35eadff10bfcab6675e19101adca4f6,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK28k7Wi,还有大谈戏子误国的……8a9bf2360767158f052cfd5418eaf3e2ba1411ab

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总之KjVkMDhmZTZjMDUzZGQ=,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风6e6067cfae477b3b5c4e8b361fbfa31abb2e237599c2832941a7ff74599581959fb3b08b

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事情刚出来的时候JDVkMDhmZTZjMDUzZTU=,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK29tb2i,谈看法d2d62f15c190e5f6c79f28c292358434f887f6bb,聊的火热28313224d2a0a146178354462f5c2bdd14c61ba2。只有小白一言不发906dd96647886a8b6037bd13cb3dcd286b5d6ced,当问到她的看法时9797230037fd28efb639840017428026145d239b,小白说:XjVkMDhmZTZjMDRlYTU=

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论0ec66dc6f58cef1e82c65ea72295f85c,还是等真相出来再说吧!”JjVkMDhmZTZjMDRlYjk=

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小白是公司新来的同事MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGOwqKmi,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论1adb87b06aef688693a597fa9fd9d325,更少抨击话题人物MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGe9tcei。就算偶尔发表意见f8b2362f4de5661a8546215abf6d7677,也总是很有自己的态度NWQwOGZlNmMwNTQyNg==,不会被大家的情绪所干扰86c066d5e36ed0ef433f8dd11549c06b,总是一副超然物外e5327c14f7716b4ea48612c94ee50ccb9d64e13b,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她JTVkMDhmZTZjMDU0NTA=,也从来不会人云亦云bc203c9c937c625c4d5af27dc8a2a2be,有自己的想法ebe69284c323c5aae48eaf6610a6113b5b7ce594,而且常常是一针见血b2922a5f03391107ffc8e87cb95655cb,直指问题核心MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGe9uL2ia5281cfa944f5c2e45ed16095d89d7028a144414

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣59bd1cae7f1143d7ce6a00b2b677f332e07e92c2,喜怒不形于色3932033ca5973bd0db99048a94129785,而且从不和大家一样站队de3fae2af53256df6f61e1a6850bd0c8,叽叽喳喳地发表意见e37cba4192bb84704e089dc4edb98d674283defd,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉4d87881a16f432502d813f5b903f9c678d0cf5f0。但学姐反而觉得1386c18cdcb810bbdb19ae5d3a4e006b,这样的小白很有魅力1d5e4ccd2070b90605b9e8d4dcb88040MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3iZ-9pb2i

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代NWQwOGZlNmMwNTQ5ZA==,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来0a81f3457f1f898419a4fb0611b84da4fbe2b566,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言28b8d0a5f914b1a636afadb88a1cb8130e984caf,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂e96e63be5529d3bab0c48074ec862d953178effb,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!ITVkMDhmZTZjMDRlZWY=

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相d553a5706f167347098ccb968acba43f9984c297,甚至离真相越来越远KjVkMDhmZTZjMDU5MTI=。可是当时当刻8c157368254a5250dcb855972787c616,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”NWQwOGZlNmMwNTRjYw==,至于眼前的事实是否是真相dade7381a4216036dd8693de9b0395b9,who care呢?MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qid2Fqb3QgqN_qLJ6jaC8sqGi

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但小白不一样b8e5b05ea368fa9a9b10500078a8133d9bdbfe2c,学心理学出身的她cc17adc3763708c80bfddd86e601c05ed5cab346,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:f5c780e406c486230d90b00ce892eefaa1c590b1

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“一件事情发生后2333ac9210a3445f3e4e971a96a2db5f2807bb07,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGO9uLWi,能引发体内激素分泌90f68c485f7d7d88e68240372b5ce191761f886b,导致情绪浮动很大的元素8e562ca34eedb7d6d6319973f8e18e7a,直面事件本身JDVkMDhmZTZjMDU1MGM=,看到事件核心9f7549d4112d64f0b109b7042047fbd3f0bc63bf。”16ead443d675427ebf3510cf0f391c1148232789

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”d0635183e21a3d7ca2feefa4b8764ae4a005c1e7151e86ee1ab81d2fc0c8597e89d1eb1c

拒绝“性冷淡”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3iaCxy6mi

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”QDVkMDhmZTZjMDRmNzA=

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格JjVkMDhmZTZjMDU1MTQ=,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGSwtbmi,叫“第一时间思考力”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGiwy8ei。指的是一件事情出来后4e25dbc7591a28633a05fece75a410a2,你在“第一时间”会想到什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGSwy8ui,会做什么d8a713d5d2f6b7c1bf49f6a38f5ff6583287b344,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式KjVkMDhmZTZjMDU5MzY=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3iaCx28ui

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGSw28ei,越来越少95072991bb089058f3c6383b9c8d7d1b1b75aaa1。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为6198fc32ef0abd0c857c7c97210e4cd7,越来越只是情绪的出口260c0e73388c32faaca34b782c1c7263426e56ec,而不是深度思考的入口b2f21ad0c06d0b1e05da4222d68c62d3KjVkMDhmZTZjMDRmOTA=

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样XjVkMDhmZTZjMDU5NGQ=。事情曝出来后IzVkMDhmZTZjMDU1NTY=,你在第一时间想的是什么?fb6ee8f3f3d617bc9d76c2dd6ee0fb8b822fc30c

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出59f6a70bbe4aba2a611d4efb8c7f3ab5f3a0d59f,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病2d529c55a2369351dd36a09a417df165,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGSxy8ui,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世e867846d4729add4d1567526a16641554fcab3f0MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3iaC8uLGi

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样2c8187734f005cc6496da9d128e368da,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡e0205d4f4fb31bbf145030fde1ba47f9,魔鬼在人间!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3iaC9uLGi

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可是后来MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGSxk7mi,“王凤雅事件”发生反转77f92c1443b164b9c694f8e3c33ec7c7f02646b8。记者调查发现c8bcef54b00959009864f3779ef36ac0a2313b2f,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGSyqL2i,凤雅确诊在后24662943c1c99ca4d5b1445650cd19de,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术KjVkMDhmZTZjMDU5NjU=。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多f8f1a51093dfc28c10712231a8f23a9b,也并不是网上说的“15万”e8a7f076e684616a51e37acd4bc14bc594cebda1IzVkMDhmZTZjMDUwNWM=

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这时ce02711e083a8e6ab4e8008a498330fa,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈KjVkMDhmZTZjMDU5NzM=。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了a92169959eeb4ad55d47f9302b713557,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”IzVkMDhmZTZjMDU1YmU=,“刑拘陈岚”等等24e753a23d797320819891b204d28667MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jKqxy7Wi

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所以XjVkMDhmZTZjMDU1Yzk=,你有没有发现58410623ec6d8bf3b9c5092e44f822af1b34b229,我们身边的人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGS9pa2i,也包括我们自己4b3ca78f8b6c8811ff5af7c10ec055e5a80f9378,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流eae1f2278b96ce23d95047c81673cc99。一件事情出来后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGS9tcui,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想d3acbec3b1cc69563fe154829d42ecab,眼前的事情是否是真相JDVkMDhmZTZjMDU1ZmY=,就开始宣泄我们的情绪fb31ca7bdc568e178997c7ab581fdd9c368b4943,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGiypcui09fd8d42304d0ffac11a141d27463367

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而且有一些人JDVkMDhmZTZjMDU2MTA=,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么ba93e819e10c17e8d6d2db5e31c75894,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qid2Fqb3QgqN_qLKHomiwyKGi725acfcb6fd7684931884c4e4206f26a2f4da832

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于是9b9d240551c8bff3446cca51bbfc289e70e7aa44,我们用来思考的路径越来越短829963e36d141e7b607469134e76594723f8f32b,甚至绝大部分人12c794c21165e822bd1696230d276193,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!df3381b0f660a96039c12d31f027884f

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后ITVkMDhmZTZjMDU2M2U=,在很多事情面前021da3855df8a5eba441325545cd42e7be628e3f,我们会变得只注重表层体验dd0ddf7b09ecf1583a89df3cae543e33,注重对情绪的应激反应9b2f16112d8689b6bdc5e47ad77b7fa5,而不是对事情本身的深度思考af45eab39dbeab4c4a6aafcfe4c9172aXjVkMDhmZTZjMDUxMGU=

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而如果一件事情的表层体验d0ded5a9a5b9617eed0854386467300eba67b11d,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足1d9af8312458d5548b4aa1f7281c6854,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGWxy8ui,更不会产生“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGi8ta2iIzVkMDhmZTZjMDUxMWY=

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时618bd1885eecc1963805b45b6bde4a24,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGWx272i,甚至忘却自身的体验410c94dcf4dc3a277112a45ceb558d95f6557e33,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验00ff5f0d32d41534fcbf53904937d3ed88a2543a,被称之为“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGi8tc-iKjVkMDhmZTZjMDUxMmU=

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渐渐地53508f89496245bd262027980083951ad1cacfe0,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”9bd442ed0d60641757414276cf513bd2,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGi8y6mi。久而久之90626a86a36bb14a2f6dc62c96f356b4,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGW8uKmi,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力cb136940db66dd33e161f9e8be75c4dff7cad7a0,你开始提不出自己的观点JTVkMDhmZTZjMDU2YzM=,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去834e355ccbabd0fa3efa2ab214c8b64357f057ed,任意一阵强风cc74e1074e116784f0f2173c14ae47331502cdf4,都能把你打翻!6eaa280d5f7d004b9c66f6e0424da13495dcac9e

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你需要重塑第一时间思考力XjVkMDhmZTZjMDUxN2I=

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第一时间思考力是可贵的KjVkMDhmZTZjMDU2ZGM=,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的50f7ddf43787433fd300da472949d1fc,毕竟726a19804e827b3a5849787e64c7bd69,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人XjVkMDhmZTZjMDU5YzE=70e9f7eb7c095ed619efb2c7a0a13464452ac851

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1.  养成淘金式思维QDVkMDhmZTZjMDU2ZjY=,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号52d4782615adc6dcd00dbadea67dd0d7。  XjVkMDhmZTZjMDUxOWI=

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”ITVkMDhmZTZjMDU5ZDU=JTVkMDhmZTZjMDUxYWQ=

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式JDVkMDhmZTZjMDU2ZmQ=,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备aa59adc97640a20b4d41cfd6e3fe7ea8,但它还有一个致命缺陷JDVkMDhmZTZjMDU3MGU=,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡JDVkMDhmZTZjMDU5ZGU=0aa51d03013427134c0420a502b18a5d51989dd6

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度ed5e783775fc3081a03c941619886697,经过判断MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGawuKmi,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qid2Fqb3QgqN_qLKHo5-wsqGi84c0a3a291681c9939b342fb6630de39

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后JDVkMDhmZTZjMDU3MmE=,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息2dc7a7af7c7753fe288de27b71d86fb2,这就是“海绵式思维”IzVkMDhmZTZjMDU5ZjI=。然后就激起了我们的情绪67bd15a0a9fa5dd0d8d115ccef5e012c,受这种愤怒情绪的支配2902d238f7e583220571bd96f2db6ff5,在网上大肆谩骂3c3cb1b44fc68ea59a4dab8cea234a4dJDVkMDhmZTZjMDUyMTI=

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGaxqKmi,事情出现后e0fad5405f4303c0ff0893cfeae0602d3b6aaba6,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪58beee7f14a0aa23139db02cf8741868,然后有时间和耐心9c2f4a812ad8c5bf0832dca2642462e7a0c38d43,等待真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGaxy72i,选择吸收什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGaxzr2i,忽略什么39b9c4c763b804f90e610ec427762d65,进入深层次的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGi9zrmi19f3ed418027b8ca5bd8caab3643bc5eb6433d37

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所以1c309fa4e40e70bd19bc96b3dd972d86f7aaadbe,当你对事情产生质疑时471ac59ee70eb249f44ae708facdaa82c0c07c15,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGaytaWi,也就不会做出应激行为5a65fb38e024d58b903eaf0d03b5654b。这个时候MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGaytcei,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGayuLmi,你就会进入深度思考JDVkMDhmZTZjMDVhMTg=NWQwOGZlNmMwNTIzNQ==

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷IzVkMDhmZTZjMDVhMWY=753134bfd60c9996eb67b13992dbd98ca6ff3bb0

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要重塑第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGa8tbmi,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪61918ae3796eabe09698f125e66a4baa003f0360,让它不再控制你的大脑b7be8632471be3313483b33cdb3e6a394b6ccd77,变得相对理性一些c22f41ac96fb24d9944ddfeca2cee7b8。为了抑制“情绪先行”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGa8zr2i,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进ITVkMDhmZTZjMDVhMzA=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jKyypami

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响0856aad03d8f57ca6524037e9e4af36910190598,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qid2Fqb3QgqN_qLKKfK2w2KGi。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯9ab90c78b4c00d7844284806df831dfc,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑XjVkMDhmZTZjMDU3ZGQ=,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚IzVkMDhmZTZjMDVhNDM=3e6436b798b479bf2db6bed23944ff69

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比如说MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qid2Fqb3QgqN_qLKHm569yKGi,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时522f2c0894f8d2c820807c291e7ac8bf0cc87e67,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”fc6b7c223155ac5f170fae7f1a455401,丧失了第一时间思考力ITVkMDhmZTZjMDVhNGM=。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题41e24036e1d464cc6a2d3143695c44da,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己d575d6cb3410bce45f6b4d97409c376e,但前提是3ba5f1ef8d247a4553a7a79607982c5ede1373fe,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!XjVkMDhmZTZjMDUyYWI=

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例如MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGewta2i,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子211cc21ea0f7256e1675a4c39e973eb85fac0b4c,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己JDVkMDhmZTZjMDU4Mjc=,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物0aab76fd18f6cce81c0b3ee42aab2fd1d630f112。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单122259c2a36e54578311d22e77831edaJDVkMDhmZTZjMDUyZGM=

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jZuxuLWi。所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGewy8ui,时不时地吃点苦头”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGew26Wi,说不定就会使你印象深刻MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGew28-i,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!5eb1e8cbec9b287492776ffa0ead7250

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其实57692ee368e84974892842ea426f0d1c4b203324,学姐想说ITVkMDhmZTZjMDU4NTA=,当你重塑了第一时间思考力NWQwOGZlNmMwNTg1OQ==,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引e9840bd71733535b7fd6e54009704933a99e3e2b,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jZuxy72i。而那个时候IzVkMDhmZTZjMDU4NmE=,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考4a765fb8ff8149eb8871edc803d836caeefdff82,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙KjVkMDhmZTZjMDVhNzU=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK2wy72i

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK2w27mi

   “我希望你见到我时cd6a91e9de88ce2f1eb08f40d599066bMDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qid2Fqb3QgqN_qLKHhK29sqGi

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素82fcf695349a182b0ee5cf8b0749901e020d4975MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK2xpb2i

     产生幻想4aaac3f55fd22c75513f0059b03fbe729b4d6f7577815013197c0b922087423529e08548

     我希望你看到我9001d6cd1541fc71593d0a32df7d03d72e9263552acc38f526df876eb8b8451a34f01010af56f6bf

     只看到我XjVkMDhmZTZjMDU4OTE=,看到我本身JjVkMDhmZTZjMDU4OWE=83433c7a8869bc4cf5954dd451c3a7fb

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在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代b616928678923e5252fefdd9ba4558d8,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格29bdb44002499824a23bb4e8e5b3d2b9。因为MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jGe8tbWi,表层的人生永远被假象包围XjVkMDhmZTZjMDU4YjU=,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美0ae09afa0eeb9b5e8318a946c11ea451232a7ec9,它需要你活得深入且真诚!MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtGDpsvRjoqMm7F3jK2x262i

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