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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKq9tbmi,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qhd6EzLyXgaCDqLKdkK28sqGi。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKq9uLWi,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰906380ef275e59b3ae60728b929e8f40,扯出“阴阳合同”7186084de355941d39d182913c84fa03,再到后来与范冰冰和解MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGWxpbWi15ee5a43f85c3b07991167d69b202039

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间NWMxNjY3MjQwNjEwZA==,网上也是充斥着各种评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKuwqL2i,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的ad82ae6ab7aa8a25596cd584063fc97525ba57e6,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的f110254fa6ce4e19258873bffbd022fd,还有大谈戏子误国的……1c6d8560f41f237c23a4bb0b73d23713c90694aa

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总之f28f29010f62c87f541d471f1ea6f6061ab34c91,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风fa4a9ddf4190c01405e6f22ed0d03fb472abd3fb92bccf8428568d2a309d290062a6317c

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事情刚出来的时候a865326d951515f7a47343b0ff2bfe50c1d7a4f7,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKuwk6mi,谈看法XjVjMTY2NzI0MDYxNGE=,聊的火热XjVjMTY2NzI0MDY2NWI=。只有小白一言不发d45accd9fb4c3f0f36980fdff4132ad3,当问到她的看法时JjVjMTY2NzI0MDYxNWU=,小白说:ITVjMTY2NzI0MDViZTE=

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论QDVjMTY2NzI0MDYxNjY=,还是等真相出来再说吧!”110664f72bbc3120b4fd78380bbdc95ac5d6f1c7

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小白是公司新来的同事MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKuxy8ei,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKux26mi,更少抨击话题人物ff7f36778331797200344c0d6e3b84f8。就算偶尔发表意见NWMxNjY3MjQwNjE4Mw==,也总是很有自己的态度6315ceb3db03b06891a60b64e7074d85,不会被大家的情绪所干扰afd60a9d3e2d1914e1d94b8f45014d846a64e1f4,总是一副超然物外QDVjMTY2NzI0MDYxOWQ=,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她f4f8d759df261e2c210c8c85ed6a235b,也从来不会人云亦云XjVjMTY2NzI0MDYxYWU=,有自己的想法e24b03e25083c99345346f7170669ae2,而且常常是一针见血MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKu8y8ei,直指问题核心50c03f6c3e4719031dd22a38c2d5b8c7IzVjMTY2NzI0MDVjMDI=

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣QDVjMTY2NzI0MDYxYzU=,喜怒不形于色18ce5a8eb1c5a0486985e6b4d0baba45,而且从不和大家一样站队3fd681052e18852fb95c3dd1423ca311,叽叽喳喳地发表意见MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKu9pcui,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉568c097ece7c72f696312ae1d410b56c0c2aefb5。但学姐反而觉得MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKu9taWi,这样的小白很有魅力XjVjMTY2NzI0MDY2N2Q=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jZ2wqK2i

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKu9tc-i,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来JjVjMTY2NzI0MDYxZjg=,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言342c4b24af9575268b05422183a9c459,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂IzVjMTY2NzI0MDYyMGI=,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!16379c40435d8d129b912c8612423590e5971cad

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相fc48243df02ad14bdf3e9649064d748fa4670f6b,甚至离真相越来越远b811a63aa76c41890134922a2a116d98。可是当时当刻6bc838f694d1b00091026229f0ea92d2,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”NWMxNjY3MjQwNjIyNQ==,至于眼前的事实是否是真相QDVjMTY2NzI0MDYyMmQ=,who care呢?f0c809dcee78039d745ce7432d063656cf6e625e

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但小白不一样JTVjMTY2NzI0MDYyMzQ=,学心理学出身的她MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKyw27mi,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jZ2xuL2i

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“一件事情发生后MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKywk72i,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上XjVjMTY2NzI0MDYyNTE=,能引发体内激素分泌2141375bde1627f3682a775322cc24b5798ebc72,导致情绪浮动很大的元素c0085a4c27c5f308aca7ae2ccd3ab69deef7dab7,直面事件本身de11f0adf825955d72c9e50e02f7a57b61d89e34,看到事件核心NWMxNjY3MjQwNjY4ZA==。”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jZ2x27Gi

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”XjVjMTY2NzI0MDY2OTU=167e199e1b13f80447695aedecd9e0098a2c35ea

拒绝“性冷淡”12436181a2dda1fe74795bac6699f3c8bd382f88

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”XjVjMTY2NzI0MDVjYTI=

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格d17b04096bc2a326cc9a4a811c422d3cde51e318,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKyx27mi,叫“第一时间思考力”3fc6f20371f6a01d8e45fe49f4cd3a9c097eb6a8。指的是一件事情出来后4a95849406296fe171bdb8da3576df4a,你在“第一时间”会想到什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKyypbmi,会做什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKyyqLWi,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGWyuLWiQDVjMTY2NzI0MDVjYjI=

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKyytbmi,越来越少QDVjMTY2NzI0MDY2YWM=。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKyyuLmi,越来越只是情绪的出口0c7deff52e58c0f293184b9a3fb26fa8,而不是深度思考的入口87f00938f9f00cfbac4929de22426b4325c6669e9ce462d62ae75c2eeea4a0cb4920798d129e1fa7

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样25e00cad515e7602bad1b19201428f0e1119c7ec。事情曝出来后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKy8y6mi,你在第一时间想的是什么?2c72999660e2f58edb7aad4175363c1a6cd8c5b3

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出KjVjMTY2NzI0MDYyYzE=,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病3c2bdd81fd7a84bfd79b3066dab1d704b09a09e2,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了JTVjMTY2NzI0MDYyZDA=,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世XjVjMTY2NzI0MDY2YzY=4f7ed211eb04807fc4aa7c4cc271c2c88bbb7e4e

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样02941aab7a71b500e1210f90292c6b92,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKy9qLWi,魔鬼在人间!”8892f508112f8900607675b9fe7e85786cbba1fd

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可是后来16e1a7538fbd80e2796deef52fec057fdf09e9e6,“王凤雅事件”发生反转QDVjMTY2NzI0MDY2Y2Q=。记者调查发现XjVjMTY2NzI0MDYyZjU=,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费62cfba3c78f204ef8046e112bd13cb425d30014e,凤雅确诊在后JjVjMTY2NzI0MDYzMDU=,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGW8k7mi。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kK2wpb2i,也并不是网上说的“15万”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGW9pb2iMDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jZ6ypbGi

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这时JTVjMTY2NzI0MDYzMTM=,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGW9qLWi。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kK2wtbWi,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kK2wuLmi,“刑拘陈岚”等等NWMxNjY3MjQwNjZlZQ==a7e12b6fa57ec00b09b3ad026079413f

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所以IzVjMTY2NzI0MDYzMzU=,你有没有发现a47702da886b4b5edaf3de6c45db7d89,我们身边的人6f3fcac92bf7128542e11b63d7125519c9a25c0a,也包括我们自己JjVjMTY2NzI0MDYzNGY=,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流b53e68561724c3a2e88bb028d4b05e42。一件事情出来后ITVjMTY2NzI0MDYzNTY=,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想JTVjMTY2NzI0MDYzNWY=,眼前的事情是否是真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qhd6EzLyXgaCDqLKdhGWwyKGi,就开始宣泄我们的情绪7492b8cc256d7764bf9b5d81fa57b9f16c4a3438,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤840f3bb957b7a5e5f1cbe66675be9316NWMxNjY3MjQwNWRmNg==

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而且有一些人c3a7dea0b3d273bbb2bef20e8054de4a23bfc343,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kK2xk7Gi,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGawpbmiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jZ69zr2i

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于是IzVjMTY2NzI0MDYzOGU=,我们用来思考的路径越来越短22994c3780c9ed70f04faa43324acc4226fc3ca0,甚至绝大部分人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kK2ytcei,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!6bb4277463280c3d8fc4f93b8262056c1f5a1ae1

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kK28taWi,在很多事情面前d480767794de6e1eb94500da4a5d63f20b9d6560,我们会变得只注重表层体验ITVjMTY2NzI0MDYzYjY=,注重对情绪的应激反应a17601d37c8cd297850323b0687d2b88bf421af8,而不是对事情本身的深度思考cc42bc7faff2246c4aa90ee7d08db98b8d2233fa91bcefb005e88b7fb2175f7daed1cd66fc70bd17

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而如果一件事情的表层体验0c29cdcbdb6043d7382b23a3c57f0041bba956df,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足39fcead85c1f17c72c80651cf4739faac031daad,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感261eb7910b0ce2ac6cc9ced22b144e0f8543bb50,更不会产生“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGawtc-iJDVjMTY2NzI0MDVlNWQ=

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时ITVjMTY2NzI0MDYzZTI=,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝6b27bd2373f717b341c7a227e7b46a2b,甚至忘却自身的体验098f2e5a39814ec3ec54630c839569be1fa4714d,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kK29y7Wi,被称之为“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGawy6mi596372d8b857bc4147ac86f1373e6bc1c69c7f00

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渐渐地e558248cba58d5c3ec64edb4fb49ff1e5a7466ff,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”8f1f346d9dfef0ac7be070d3ea6c1976,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”96e34ab396cc65e2bceb0ed20fc65b3e1c324f6e。久而久之5c4525af8741d5a7541aa8a817ec1b78,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人a241c712168fb5748cb554faa06c367d,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力76d44ff9ca300091d1a0c9669f9175b5,你开始提不出自己的观点ITVjMTY2NzI0MDY0MmQ=,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGOwzrmi,任意一阵强风IzVjMTY2NzI0MDY0M2U=,都能把你打翻!a2bde1c649e9053dd52c99b30710ef4408865287

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不想失去自我95171622a52ca77ede8a5d922cd3c177

你需要重塑第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jZ-827mi

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第一时间思考力是可贵的ba5e760af701aab6c0a68a0b1d11274b,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的2743f0ce1c2e85518d26a0d6aaf48389,毕竟77df3d8216bd307d7ff1a8c431614b78,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人JTVjMTY2NzI0MDY3Mzk=MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qhd6EzLyXgaCDqLKKjZ6yoqGi

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1.  养成淘金式思维bb709ea6b6bbb8dc26341726a5d255d51519bcc7,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号QDVjMTY2NzI0MDY3NDE=。  MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jZ-9uKmi

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qhd6EzLyXgaCDqLKdmmOxoqGiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jZ-9zrGi

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式029a886b9f86ee7bc3c77b303eb5c87616527171,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备c56a4e6f207c4e073f242d58ce164cd21255d177,但它还有一个致命缺陷b7dbef9e5b8c598fffa98ae6a68cec00,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡1995708ec189e76cff221aa5b7c92935MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jaCwtami

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度0b362a8ba9e64e7bf5912e93e534240701b4a211,经过判断38d0837fbfb10514cc89087542b4aef7,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么47785bfc3f5315eb9205a9dec8b60f5916a026cae8d27e45fccf4de462d3c14ab9c0d8d3

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后JDVjMTY2NzI0MDY0OTg=,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息c39d9c9b47b016ab82fb322cb3f6e446,这就是“海绵式思维”JTVjMTY2NzI0MDY3Njg=。然后就激起了我们的情绪57a5a36bec0b993276cf0749368d86b8183f01b7,受这种愤怒情绪的支配ITVjMTY2NzI0MDY0YjA=,在网上大肆谩骂MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGaxy8-i609f8941fd412cbe9c0816a5991815da

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGO8y6mi,事情出现后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGO8zqmi,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪ee3ac7443f2bfe9d4f034ae6d2b23c1c,然后有时间和耐心ad183728fd6aeb5dd4993b93a4d01cef2fcf8972,等待真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGO9pa2i,选择吸收什么JDVjMTY2NzI0MDY0ZTQ=,忽略什么849b424218b87d98db0c1d45ca22b8f0296fa7ec,进入深层次的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGax26mif1fb1c9fcfdb36ec1770866d8de90608

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所以464241c1c9b33ac49aa30696e7dbfc44,当你对事情产生质疑时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGO9y7mi,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架7ef8fc9bf74489b2105468b8378710858d7a01bf,也就不会做出应激行为1985b5f0fafa14e98012051379c1e2bab7ed1f26。这个时候QDVjMTY2NzI0MDY1MGM=,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑fc7b1290ae54f38e5eb0295dffbc530c0e6ca541,你就会进入深度思考3d9e0cb4dd3d8cf98ae5cb68aa54ee0dMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3jaCypami

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qhd6EzLyXgaCDqLKdmme82KGiNWMxNjY3MjQwNWZjYw==

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要重塑第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGSwtb2i,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪JjVjMTY2NzI0MDY1MjU=,让它不再控制你的大脑679b0a6474b06afa412974663bff2139,变得相对理性一些KjVjMTY2NzI0MDY3OWI=。为了抑制“情绪先行”XjVjMTY2NzI0MDY1MzQ=,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进IzVjMTY2NzI0MDY3YTM=6114806b9c49423d77c66d449a8bb12436a7a64e

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响cfc855c6e3c1864e6fc091ee70d553df,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGa8tbWi。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯ITVjMTY2NzI0MDY1NDM=,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGSxpbWi,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚edb93a31195eafad65d058d740ec3893NWMxNjY3MjQwNWZlZQ==

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比如说549d0ed401194ce2621d8108c6244766e5b6be43,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时85bfc44bd0dc9293a406dd82fc8717ef,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”5c8f3ede015940fac06962aa560bd8f2d860fc87,丧失了第一时间思考力91343706b028bb6b6537d5fe225b4409。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题362c198d9cd5ba40ac0cbaa883a1d5c5,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGSxzr2i,但前提是MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGSx272i,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!IzVjMTY2NzI0MDVmZmU=

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例如98ce113440b4f33088b3c5d29e73b147dbce84e5,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子42974c3a73af9b7fad6b589d43364bfbf5f6dd06,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qhd6EzLyXgaCDqLKdjGiwsqGi,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物3b056a76061e1773be66393a948fc2f2be40ea6e。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单4f971d0a5bbe2e1c604d02b39400e0a48258b416MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKqwy8ui

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天JDVjMTY2NzI0MDY3ZDc=。所以e1fba83b6ceaf927b4a4de636f5b251f4fb961d3,时不时地吃点苦头”d4c6a0cf10bc7bbe340e4c98105a68f9,说不定就会使你印象深刻8ff806a9d9170c8483b0770dc9b6c79460d18a28,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!22b1c87b477cfd20fe044ca5c7cf9862887e8add

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其实KjVjMTY2NzI0MDY1YmM=,学姐想说adffcfa5187224642deea87971116b97,当你重塑了第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGS828ei,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引71bccef8c01090fc897a2b506cbfdb35,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格51de5b499a96a2ce44c41cd072c9c5d7。而那个时候XjVjMTY2NzI0MDY1ZGQ=,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qhd6EzLyXgaCDqLKdjZ-woqGi,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙ITVjMTY2NzI0MDY3ZTc=NWMxNjY3MjQwNjA4MA==

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:32e123a39ae34b95900f4424d0029d25

   “我希望你见到我时05e8b95cf5489d59fa94edc49ad422cb12622775MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKqytbGi

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素5d227891df9d9c056d0771a4447197ef695615cbMDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kKqyuLWi

     产生幻想db879df6f5aac0ed9cbc3a94174aa43075849da49ca82948948fe9157c969267

     我希望你看到我JTVjMTY2NzI0MDY2MDY=e87edb3769c931a1a18f91d3c47570405310384f

     只看到我ITVjMTY2NzI0MDY2MGU=,看到我本身0847f6b5f41674128f9c70ef2e092427IzVjMTY2NzI0MDYwYmQ=

     然后真正了解我本身10040fcec1577893e2b7e03b16fe49d2。”JjVjMTY2NzI0MDYwYzU=

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代bf5a7e4d389c16c60163c1a1a058cc895ff186dc,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格ITVjMTY2NzI0MDY4MDA=。因为75715c54b9ea278d21bdacb7e736430e,表层的人生永远被假象包围MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCDtryWgrB7YbF3kGWwy72i,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美04b2238ac468370cd227ec1cf6fa34ba86b590ba,它需要你活得深入且真诚!NWMxNjY3MjQwNjBjZQ==

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