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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近8a93cd0b42a999195556775bf9c4df11,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬1e384e0a34b7e23eea6f3920619ffbb3。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlgGexqL2i,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰QDViMmViYTZmN2JhMzI=,扯出“阴阳合同”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlgZux27Wi,再到后来与范冰冰和解IzViMmViYTZmODY0ZTY=KjViMmViYTZmNmZmNWY=

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间5fd6f4d47a07a5599fb4f44b268d035b15d4c8f5,网上也是充斥着各种评论1c0ffa7d0dffc6291e5273bcb4bc14f5c3d2034c,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlgZ68zrWi,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlgZ-9qK2i,还有大谈戏子误国的……96e57b98978749dec7ce2e1a6af5982d

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总之MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlgaC9y6Wi,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3kGSwy8-ic75473ed7f3c0db03aef1c0070a7a73c

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事情刚出来的时候IzViMmViYTZmN2MxZGE=,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义0c2723c46383ff77336b3ddb60b3616c5e8f9d13,谈看法MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlhK2wzrmi,聊的火热0ff9dd17daef8458d53f679a79e974b4b3d76705。只有小白一言不发MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlhGOxpaWi,当问到她的看法时IzViMmViYTZmN2M2MjM=,小白说:MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtfGax28ui

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlhGWxy7mi,还是等真相出来再说吧!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtfGiyuK2i

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小白是公司新来的同事74e8dde62b541736347cc52b3b09652a,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论32ca72a5dd40fce6a590175ee1e7f013,更少抨击话题人物a56c9de20605643140dad2483adc2593。就算偶尔发表意见MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlhGi8y6mi,也总是很有自己的态度c2e86dbfe81497352b4cbbe72fa5ebdd4351f8f2,不会被大家的情绪所干扰MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlhZy9qK2i,总是一副超然物外QDViMmViYTZmN2NkZDY=,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她bc94c935855655c667d5cfdfb254ff937cb62661,也从来不会人云亦云080c075a45113b38de75350b00720918,有自己的想法740b44f5cf14c0cf2dbea00c85239578,而且常常是一针见血f13cafeac3e11a2ba020ea8d19bbb5dbc8808c9e,直指问题核心0ef3a1daa00c3811bf0652dcfee23f2d0c0fb7b602019552004540563fc0e252

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrJliKyxzrGi,喜怒不形于色4fc1ed420bf856d6028ecec3446f1551,而且从不和大家一样站队fdd6afa7afc3ed9d7068d18c96501ecf,叽叽喳喳地发表意见08a2b40c0a2bc23617c5df893fc82c19162af74b,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉9c7d8e3140987391cd5cd21212f0a4f5。但学姐反而觉得6ce99a71035badb75e6f35df71f5f31e,这样的小白很有魅力522d8620f02eb264455ad422f7a20623ITViMmViYTZmNzFlYWQ=

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代JTViMmViYTZmN2Q4YTY=,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来39c07eb0de9d8fae040e115b96354273c6f00648,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言JjViMmViYTZmN2RhZTc=,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂JDViMmViYTZmN2RjMDI=,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtfaC9y7Wi

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相889ca47d1f4f3d4f617fc33d48b058a3,甚至离真相越来越远KjViMmViYTZmODZjNzI=。可是当时当刻MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJliZ6xuL2i,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJliZ-x262i,至于眼前的事实是否是真相85277a8a9a168a5c68e97cad9d59334c,who care呢?MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtgKywuLGi

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但小白不一样1529d0ab0b98dc208395a99984675753eddc5c6a,学心理学出身的她ffdd28f28d2806ee1f84bf757e656fab,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:KjViMmViYTZmNzJhOGQ=

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“一件事情发生后JjViMmViYTZmN2UzYjM=,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJljK29y7Wi,能引发体内激素分泌4d2b0f22356b0d47ec89de1b0c38f01a,导致情绪浮动很大的元素MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJljGWwy6Wi,直面事件本身a8b99fba7a542b6ec467c0b665ca1b2207ab1abe,看到事件核心MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3kZ28y7mi。”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtgZy9ta2i

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3kZ6827Gi02bfe715d09cf1da3a87a2471179ea3aefc11d04

拒绝“性冷淡”JDViMmViYTZmNzJmZjQ=

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”05c98e706fcf98096917ed24ab9c22ef

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJljGextaWi,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrJljGixy7Gi,叫“第一时间思考力”a39989b5c1b4cd9e42772a59852bc0f2b30c9480。指的是一件事情出来后c96de6ec7a34bf29020d6d582d6f9a0c,你在“第一时间”会想到什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrJljZyypc-i,会做什么b5c625272cb9e13bd442ec7787d1311e40ac4d92,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式23c5ecb81eb79fdb2484b48e55c49344MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKthKyxy72i

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考JjViMmViYTZmN2VlODM=,越来越少NWIyZWJhNmY4NzFkMA==。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJljZ-827mi,越来越只是情绪的出口90380b649dcba5cef9b237ac8f0f4c3199ee5a3b,而不是深度思考的入口KjViMmViYTZmODcyZTE=21e03dad24379d4e8f9d566f4a5a36a3

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样ITViMmViYTZmODczZjA=。事情曝出来后d6aa182989c5ae4cd4a32afa95a105e9cfcc6740,你在第一时间想的是什么?a349e6d40e34127e9a75a68b0c4637e4

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出3f7c75cb0ceb0bf4eb3f7f35645c7f55,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病00fbb4d48f1961bf040ba11d61f6d5aef6d43959,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了QDViMmViYTZmN2Y0ZmE=,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世JjViMmViYTZmODc1MDQ=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrKthGe9qK2i

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlkGSwk7Wi,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡ae88cb7697a9aa5a99bd4b58ee4a21fa,魔鬼在人间!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtiKuyuKmi

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可是后来QDViMmViYTZmN2Y4Mzk=,“王凤雅事件”发生反转MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3mmSxpcei。记者调查发现MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-Qua3MgqOLZL6dnmewoqGi,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlkGiytbWi,凤雅确诊在后ad562dbfa7b7a8bd43875308260f28da4ce3ed78,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术ITViMmViYTZmODc3MzE=。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多5169043e2a044d433a626b40f5dcbe04,也并不是网上说的“15万”ITViMmViYTZmODc4NTI=7fc7b80a867f6b2fb97f81dd4fc909c3169705c3

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这时IzViMmViYTZmN2ZkYWI=,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈ITViMmViYTZmODc5NmE=。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了KjViMmViYTZmN2ZlYmQ=,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”ITViMmViYTZmN2ZmZDA=,“刑拘陈岚”等等MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3mmi8uK2iKjViMmViYTZmNzRmNzc=

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所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3eKqwta2i,你有没有发现3f315f6c80978e3597ed197b94dfeffa,我们身边的人7dbd4786301dddd00116837842ae4208,也包括我们自己bf264acd67c598efd7271d89c1690efd,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流JDViMmViYTZmODdiOTE=。一件事情出来后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3eGOxy72i,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想ITViMmViYTZmODA2NDk=,眼前的事情是否是真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3eGWyqKmi,就开始宣泄我们的情绪8147e2136c6a611eca24e46fd552258b,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤3937b3c037aeca4eab3c1a6b7a138fd624b499bdMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtjGiypaWi

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而且有一些人IzViMmViYTZmODA5ODY=,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么ITViMmViYTZmODBhYTU=,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感IzViMmViYTZmODdkYzI=2aae6ab949fd8424eaeb8ffca42d790890ea382c

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于是455fe0870d96dc5b1e3d35557cb9deab,我们用来思考的路径越来越短be4735ba8f1e43925aa71f9fd603b5e3,甚至绝大部分人JTViMmViYTZmODBkZTE=,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!ITViMmViYTZmNzVlYmI=

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后d03209f5677eda8d8834d8358c95478f0835d942,在很多事情面前bb413e554f3c9ef02e172b32a97a5abafbd7a1ae,我们会变得只注重表层体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3fKqxpc-i,注重对情绪的应激反应637483ef0fed6ef5c76027d4c3aa5d6f,而不是对事情本身的深度思考1aa1535da53d332bd3b446f4e0a5ea27e64ad48307d608ca25b95e70222ceccd330ee47a

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而如果一件事情的表层体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3fKyx27Wi,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3fK2ypc-i,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感4fd17cbfa36b73131437294dd54f0374,更不会产生“心流”JDViMmViYTZmODdmZTg=MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-Qua3MgqOLZLKdkGiysqGi

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3fGS8zr2i,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3fGW9pcui,甚至忘却自身的体验979d27e88b296ec9c9895a107f8e46b1be440d50,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验bfd38c4b9b6fe289ab7182e7bdee9225,被称之为“心流”IzViMmViYTZmODgxMDQ=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtkGe827mi

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渐渐地aa6f3fc6e016cd4526c1ba5a5c4a58e4923e66f1,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”079ab415678ced1cb46d8133eb92f9e5,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3nquxpb2i。久而久之JTViMmViYTZmODFkMjM=,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人6c8afbd4babf07e4c41bfc80e720b6d6,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3fZ-x28ui,你开始提不出自己的观点b9d84f384552ee06bccf78156bbf93db7def55cf,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去IzViMmViYTZmODIxNzM=,任意一阵强风02304a1292b2f2100a60d45a9ac1e2da,都能把你打翻!a8bc7d9f4bcc40c372e3779df8ccbab0cd59ae14

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你需要重塑第一时间思考力c6d88e21c595b1bb1293171ef23590dfc28fd6e7

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第一时间思考力是可贵的8195056d617b23a3368c38c7eb15a198,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的24bc9b10e221a332ef8def9064d38466,毕竟43e1ed30069711aed11da7124ab762387819927b,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人efc8576509b908aedd79d90356336e2553afbeac69169060b70b4f0363dc3e871d3558d4

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1.  养成淘金式思维MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3gGWwpbWi,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号840a255fdc7107b89dbcbdd44d900231c410ba76。  2689f103593ad0df5b11b8ff9918c6d9

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”36498ff5fc86d405d02af3a2fbc02435a84a4b92fe227c1210f3649bf9ebeb0e4232f27bf9c87358

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式731a7d2eff8880434eb59238c19bea57,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备0fe396592e3dc896cb54c4d9f70d6343565936c8,但它还有一个致命缺陷41fa77254c9034c05def0650ccbcb0f6,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡8d5bea3c531d8d9fe8c5804c08c3fe93MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtm52wk7Wi

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度ea7c6b6376052036d3ef04eedc6b55eb31b0a649,经过判断MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3gZyx26mi,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么NWIyZWJhNmY4ODc5NQ==JjViMmViYTZmNzdmNDI=

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后4d37c05f9684d0a48bdb974ae4b8331b,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3gZ6yuK2i,这就是“海绵式思维”7f84ef37d606ecefc83aebb745cf3551a6c983a9。然后就激起了我们的情绪JjViMmViYTZmODJmN2U=,受这种愤怒情绪的支配MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgd-Qua3MgqOLZbGgkZ2xsqGi,在网上大肆谩骂MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3nme9uL2iaa856ca60b3f0dde5f96564bc9aaf34a3996d5cc

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度4205157b5a975b82426122311250fcbf,事情出现后IzViMmViYTZmODMyYmU=,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪9a2565240b212da34be0c31feac8ec77bbadcb4f,然后有时间和耐心MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3hGOwtami,等待真相751af1c5fe12978ac2cb755cae177da9,选择吸收什么NWIyZWJhNmY4MzcxNA==,忽略什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3hGaxtb2i,进入深层次的思考XjViMmViYTZmODhhZDI=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtnmexqLGi

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所以50be5cd30ecc9dba7ffd5ac9841b2c8eac5aef45,当你对事情产生质疑时04a2575c3101f638f6b909df0b169f73a8078822,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3hZuytcui,也就不会做出应激行为ea64537174221ab8b32172b9698b2dec58682a0d。这个时候e18faa56f513605bd5977d65d80c1f8c,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3hZ28zrmi,你就会进入深度思考70fd14a2ae1d3e430fed958c758e908d7c0874c68d4c650ae1b674af4f0b49b9a562fc6d

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷0e94ff947fd7ba87fb0e49f13b28c24585cb25f647907e3b1cb7cfe1599ace2ecb2a5994

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要重塑第一时间思考力1258538bfe9fb7f1c901b9dd97d341f6f8727466,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪JjViMmViYTZmODNmYzA=,让它不再控制你的大脑MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3iKqwpa2i,变得相对理性一些67ed1903e2cd069a4f30b17ecf4dce88db26ba01。为了抑制“情绪先行”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3iKuwuLGi,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3n6CxzrGiKjViMmViYTZmNzk2MjM=

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响30d96b2d8e5d653abf320dc8129306b5330cecc9,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3oqqxk7mi。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯JTViMmViYTZmODQ0MTQ=,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑3c14d77448c4cab941c24e37f898eb8fe7aa2932,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚b782973506655e99cb906f7c73912790MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrKtomax272i

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比如说MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3iGSx26mi,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时KjViMmViYTZmODQ3NjI=,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”IzViMmViYTZmODQ4NzU=,丧失了第一时间思考力JjViMmViYTZmODkzNzQ=。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题XjViMmViYTZmODQ5OTE=,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己e08616e08f792b54261e1405e4eb973b8aacb8f2,但前提是7c2709b12ce0f75f5d29a5cb056b5728,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!6018e2a9cb569e08c915e071a2d1fae4

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例如9ade5eba21c4b223da7468bad9d6b329,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子d7dd80d6809e212011ef9edb3b877911,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己NWIyZWJhNmY4NGYwOA==,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物XjViMmViYTZmODk0ODg=。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单XjViMmViYTZmODk1OTk=eb7e8d7d796ea369c06852b81df1223cd1c3c74f

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天fe2b4e3fac5aa066b8017e632eb73a60。所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3iaCxqK2i,时不时地吃点苦头”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3jKqxuLWi,说不定就会使你印象深刻IzViMmViYTZmODUyNTY=,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!KjViMmViYTZmN2EzMjk=

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其实07158ab7d970bea629bfdcff2d659f2b3a3650f4,学姐想说7a1df3a97ecc4c445c5dd41d4eb4895d,当你重塑了第一时间思考力JTViMmViYTZmODU1OTY=,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引XjViMmViYTZmODU2YWY=,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格IzViMmViYTZmODk3YzM=。而那个时候MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3jGW9y6mi,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考KjViMmViYTZmODU4ZTU=,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙171767135ff4b687af4e4481211f535c54047563d90d29156fd72ad2eb0829a2

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:a0b275a69162f8349c16de554abeb673999eac22

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     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素JjViMmViYTZmODViMTI=4b37ac52f8820a288785011bb9dacd5a

     产生幻想e2cbcc14618edd126b2b994619edc9ef6ce087caMDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlfaCyqLGi

     我希望你看到我KjViMmViYTZmODVjMjQ=3292f91926d8c53a2c46c8d36ba9ac4d57c89082

     只看到我1e265ec3b33d01a89e8cc2a40df41af6,看到我本身48df23c22153968ad246a2de299ffda3e68547abfee4b404203b01d64d89644452531013

     然后真正了解我本身MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Dz7nNjYqMnrN3o5uwzq2i。”0541f8c9f7cb68702bda45e0707f78d7

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代ITViMmViYTZmODVmNjg=,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格JTViMmViYTZmODljMGI=。因为935719bd9ac57e6b0cc64bb535a49c19c99bfd51,表层的人生永远被假象包围16a8027277777eeac642a01527893f18cae36bc8,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美87cb58de9ba8640efd551cc8d24123c2,它需要你活得深入且真诚!MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Dz7nNjYqMnrJlgK29taWi

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