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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGaxqL2i,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬fa5c521b87b54c84bfb45788aca83703。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚5dc83636f16c497fe3a3a3f7860e847c,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGaxy6Wi,扯出“阴阳合同”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGaxy8ui,再到后来与范冰冰和解9b6e96696f6fe8675c09f4c02181240c60625795c39e5d0d976d9ef20edcde42a8dedce2

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间06a26ddd96f1b331bb40f971897fb17a,网上也是充斥着各种评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGaxk6mi,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的603ac15cc24cc872eb0443e413350edda86a21ab,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的NWJjYmI3MTNjMjc5MQ==,还有大谈戏子误国的……MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgKu828-i

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总之MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGayta2i,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风IzViY2JiNzEzYzJjYTg=291a9e70e2e5605894424ebe7d4fd7d6

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事情刚出来的时候IzViY2JiNzEzYzI3YTM=,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGa8tbWi,谈看法MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGa8uLGi,聊的火热6838683aca8c49fb61c49a335594fd6272f6fdbb。只有小白一言不发MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgtCPz6yXgYqAm7Gdm5yx2KGi,当问到她的看法时1947026ac2d5f484c36682a0caf8d6b3a17ccd1c,小白说:a439bbd4eaf875ec32de90827b29917d

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论JjViY2JiNzEzYzI3ZDE=,还是等真相出来再说吧!”b4832ab3988ed27c8c259d2331d4c2a2beea3fdc

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小白是公司新来的同事ecf303d07fa9b052657c730fd9693a2254803251,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGa9qLGi,更少抨击话题人物MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ28y7Gi。就算偶尔发表意见fd1c6f85ec4daef6b6055cf649300fdc4d16d6f3,也总是很有自己的态度MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGa9uLGi,不会被大家的情绪所干扰a03f3c5273a481319521bbd10bfa16d3be1628e8,总是一副超然物外56118b76335c29dfff1cd86a135f7c6add905645,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGewpcui,也从来不会人云亦云MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGewtaWi,有自己的想法e49019497a8bf5a37314ec43a858cd95,而且常常是一针见血MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGewy6Wi,直指问题核心MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ28zq2iIzViY2JiNzEzYzIyN2Q=

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣844c00f233dee70fdaff4d0dd5a4ea25,喜怒不形于色MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGewzr2i,而且从不和大家一样站队10b57c075fa8ae3a65f71aa7744ec63d,叽叽喳喳地发表意见JjViY2JiNzEzYzI4NDY=,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉6e67a39b888376b4c55aca5f3d932c0eb36bad79。但学姐反而觉得f71ea333cca86bbcbcac8f895cb50a364106ed96,这样的小白很有魅力XjViY2JiNzEzYzJjZDQ=KjViY2JiNzEzYzIyOGU=

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代4894e6d8fe7cfd6270b682b7ee292a66,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来de681c297c3875940b5004ae189c63afe1faec89,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGexy6Wi,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂XjViY2JiNzEzYzI4NmY=,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!XjViY2JiNzEzYzIyOWY=

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相11db8ac4586200c471ac206f0f1437eb7d472fbc,甚至离真相越来越远ce6508265455283d7d788f93b69663874e7a6b5d。可是当时当刻MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGex28ui,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGeypami,至于眼前的事实是否是真相275a5baa7cb03974a7f30a4623dd6bd95550007e,who care呢?7618d7c4f0c3aa0c8356e117dbcb59e44e374987

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但小白不一样20e091105a32aeb15075cbeff9d130d7e106c8db,学心理学出身的她JTViY2JiNzEzYzI4YTE=,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgKy9qLmi

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“一件事情发生后JjViY2JiNzEzYzI4YTk=,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上JDViY2JiNzEzYzI4YjE=,能引发体内激素分泌MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGe8y62i,导致情绪浮动很大的元素8f02fed561d13501fc147715cbd560ad,直面事件本身XjViY2JiNzEzYzI4Yzk=,看到事件核心83692dd97bcd2bce0b487d6959e3db55dfffcfb1。”JjViY2JiNzEzYzIyZjY=

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”IzViY2JiNzEzYzJjZjA=989880f81d30516b01fc8da98daa610c8ff1fdbd

拒绝“性冷淡”08ee46c6300ad7f498cf6de9e8b2630763391910

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”QDViY2JiNzEzYzIzMjE=

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格JTViY2JiNzEzYzI4ZDE=,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式IzViY2JiNzEzYzI4ZGI=,叫“第一时间思考力”64660dfee960950d5347855a43c85ece6a3b339e。指的是一件事情出来后MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGe9qLGi,你在“第一时间”会想到什么e592b1f049d3a0abba309e76504f12e1,会做什么JTViY2JiNzEzYzI4ZjE=,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式562715d9c12dacb35b675f2ae2560eee942d26e844cf0e3473c76a6da5c9c5236a7f3a8d

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考c4f0e6def427a29bef197cf4d0959d5712e3343e,越来越少f0f78ac3fb0df09bde3fd40513bb9e7df45172e5。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为e44666b88318a36c95fd5d587794cb09b2287b79,越来越只是情绪的出口MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGiwpbGi,而不是深度思考的入口2bd57fc136d4a83e90fc43ec31d699bbMDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgK2wk72i

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样JDViY2JiNzEzYzJkMWM=。事情曝出来后caff7ee5ad72922d0801707ff6b731f884fa84a7,你在第一时间想的是什么?7e24f2351b586d9be221d137eb25d70530f5f919

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgtCPz6yXgYqAm7GdoquxyKGi,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病deeed8d5c2b26cae95b5620acb8cd3186ce5acb5,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了ITViY2JiNzEzYzI5MmM=,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世XjViY2JiNzEzYzJkMjQ=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgK2xy7Gi

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样dce0e8cbcd083dc39583f1d4d15139fb,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGiw27mi,魔鬼在人间!”801cc88385845516c96dd9211b054ac2156daa36

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可是后来2acd1825ccfc8250c58460a84a7d9a5f,“王凤雅事件”发生反转XjViY2JiNzEzYzJkMmM=。记者调查发现MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGixpb2i,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费QDViY2JiNzEzYzI5NTY=,凤雅确诊在后MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGixtcei,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术35c2c769443272d5a5316dd2a4f34663。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGixuL2i,也并不是网上说的“15万”5d9b438246480c308613a965711673a4385247a5MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgK29zrmi

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这时3d4a938b42d85de3b6d6bcc40b21628b4fbb6870,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈5aa2244ececae2f503d42ac8c9e3ce4e5d4d91c2。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGix26Wi,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”a8646fcf82cad4c4d196543f1d6b6a03,“刑拘陈岚”等等JjViY2JiNzEzYzJkNGQ=f0be4387da3f3539a141caf840f00582

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所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGiypbGi,你有没有发现MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGiyqKmi,我们身边的人3fd65aed111c9728e80ece9331fd4bcb24d0a60d,也包括我们自己85bedf4c88ec2a592e47c793dd9ebb00,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流5b1e5f26493ca4a74cacdf7a584b1d62。一件事情出来后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGi8ta2i,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想d43318d03d3a8e0a1a77112d01dbf90df32f7c49,眼前的事情是否是真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGi8y7Wi,就开始宣泄我们的情绪281e88e0db9a970ea3a8002d350210196d6f6c08,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤e6a0d1c0fd7a40b9cc64d626f881b7ec128d9b589e0f2c344c703ec5eb9e0008e297f43b9163767f

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而且有一些人a46e25f0a84fac7381bc4541d0527551,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGi8k72i,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感87be7deb3c57a2fd61f21332b90f33551dc80c4f1daef728dbe154e4d35f1ccbab887e84

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于是bc692d53c8f242805b51a804a95363c7afb32eb1,我们用来思考的路径越来越短MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgtCPz6yXgYqAm7Gdo5-w2KGi,甚至绝大部分人5e3a10cd04f7f6bb8f0409a88bd00ad57f9d7564,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!da40a36add142ac3b33926ba8e2064fc

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后a7de7b02af547718f7300a780ce7bf5f7b6027df,在很多事情面前MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGi9zq2i,我们会变得只注重表层体验544b88dcf3b4ef2e32b97eef9042e859,注重对情绪的应激反应XjViY2JiNzEzYzJhMTA=,而不是对事情本身的深度思考16d894e48a588a01f43ef645406602ad8c8b8152MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGO826Wi

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而如果一件事情的表层体验8eb38a72775972fd78d23f4365963f3bc477de2a,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足bae815ef0a3a2f9964bde2ae951e4013,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZuwy6mi,更不会产生“心流”JjViY2JiNzEzYzJkN2E=MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgtCPz6yXgYqAm7GdiZ6xoqGi

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时111ad267c2d418f12510ac37bd6f6b98efeb7e7f,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZuw27Gi,甚至忘却自身的体验XjViY2JiNzEzYzJhNDI=,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验faedf7d8c7510caec96680499b59ac27,被称之为“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ6xk62i8368bb547abffb20477df7a61b0a1119

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渐渐地ad04d69a9b64c4804972f086d872f05594596f35,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZuxtbWi,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ6ypbGi。久而久之MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZuxuLGi,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人IzViY2JiNzEzYzJhNmU=,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力bd363080b09c90b4c582cc80905b154e,你开始提不出自己的观点MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZux28ui,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZuypaWi,任意一阵强风MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZuypcei,都能把你打翻!949d4a2494f92f8bfac432d7bfa76d78bbbc1056

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你需要重塑第一时间思考力4d24c9e61ba62b60c09c0bd169c9a5a4

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第一时间思考力是可贵的566518e3e5ce5363bf0f740a9f8fbeac,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZuytcei,毕竟4f651df10df9ab94ec271453422f1d41,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人b88618e99ed5e97ef4a1e602ecee61e5XjViY2JiNzEzYzI1NTU=

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1.  养成淘金式思维JTViY2JiNzEzYzJhYWY=,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号cf0b44b818de868c6d72142679fc2c24d7cf1ce3。  IzViY2JiNzEzYzI1NjY=

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgtCPz6yXgYqAm7GgiZuwsqGiKjViY2JiNzEzYzI1NzY=

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式d7ef00dd8022565c0c7d53c6e853aa61e8111a30,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZu8y8-i,但它还有一个致命缺陷0b3f7292e6f51b1576158ff7936767f9,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ68tc-i1ec37f5af6c1355f384cafeec59720baebc41ccd

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度95b46b1970c58266b125af8c46e7b72ddb76269f,经过判断4c970b02325bbc53522540604b744f96,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgtCPz6yXgYqAm7GgiZyxsqGiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGSyta2i

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZu9pc-i,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息650ac0c6a776a8e71f0927b2f4db7869,这就是“海绵式思维”adee21d90bab70c48be4ec34b137d635。然后就激起了我们的情绪MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZu9uLWi,受这种愤怒情绪的支配MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZu9y7mi,在网上大肆谩骂KjViY2JiNzEzYzJkY2I=11e3a1e1f650d8fd8b370c98134738a1

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度JTViY2JiNzEzYzJiMDM=,事情出现后c9266ae7d1f7623eb058518721e3c07a,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪06160c9a9c3a3ce11cbb0bb5c0e2bb1045fba8e0,然后有时间和耐心2971d3f76b537c761b76a2f62532bb0d,等待真相5cc161132e79fdfaa80b8c436e93d85b,选择吸收什么QDViY2JiNzEzYzJiMzE=,忽略什么NWJjYmI3MTNjMmIzYg==,进入深层次的思考16d18e835aa2bd85b975f4f80e9b1ebeded4b668MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGS9taWi

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所以JjViY2JiNzEzYzJiNDQ=,当你对事情产生质疑时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZyxpbmi,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架29369a214e3207a4bd156e05738252a54bf47aec,也就不会做出应激行为NWJjYmI3MTNjMmRkZA==。这个时候IzViY2JiNzEzYzJiNjE=,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑2a1b2efc4babb6428f5075a673be887367571364,你就会进入深度思考d672e99f3075932e82821279e7ee5da917c29a8d21fa23ba5efb108f6993481d

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷QDViY2JiNzEzYzJkZjA=4fdd01a38658168813c6fd302e5c724b

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要重塑第一时间思考力88513d1574f013c0b68341ad306370dc,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪JDViY2JiNzEzYzJiN2Q=,让它不再控制你的大脑220218b7b3eda58601f2f9411b6c503925b1269c,变得相对理性一些IzViY2JiNzEzYzJkZjk=。为了抑制“情绪先行”01984c6d7e5fcb88a38b25bb973acc869dca48fb,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进eb6dafaac333a63c5aba1ab22b6ee61721fbfa5e355da60ba66909b0ba7c7d93ac42f120

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响c670c69d0d4462b95e5696ff98a5b679,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯cfdc3ed0d9eddffeddc5b8f50569bfb9。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯IzViY2JiNzEzYzJiOWU=,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZyyuL2i,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚70457ab09a90686b842fcb3ed3abfbaeMDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGWxuLGi

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比如说43209c03cc8dabb7e96395bf438dbf35f4f35dbb,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时JTViY2JiNzEzYzJiYjY=,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgtCPz6yXgYqAm7GggZyysqGi,丧失了第一时间思考力JDViY2JiNzEzYzJlMWI=。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题b7a61e663f4b38b902a77d41bf562380db74e2d8,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZy8k62i,但前提是7a8b1d013dcd8b89d6219161ce5486306def832f,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!dd01c322e9162c3d116fdc31f91f8480acc69b4d

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例如c67b7d65e1c74623bc9610bb01a70c9a,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子KjViY2JiNzEzYzJiZWE=,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZy9uK2i,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ-wuLGi。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单ff5929999e2f7f9c249a355c989bf50b1e6407b091d0dd674c8df3ad320d3eb34414b4ef

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天XjViY2JiNzEzYzJlMzQ=。所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZy9y7Gi,时不时地吃点苦头”af89828d6471f392e7bb269957b8d946,说不定就会使你印象深刻bf247c32ee3c3e44862ac73afbef86d3,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!JDViY2JiNzEzYzI2Yjc=

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其实JjViY2JiNzEzYzJjMTU=,学姐想说KjViY2JiNzEzYzJjMWU=,当你重塑了第一时间思考力481dfd611dc0423e0722761527f1fbe883df9c4e,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引8ab0eea306d0b7a837aaf3a68fcb44bfdaba4ffc,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格95b171f5265f2ab98d923336be39b29e。而那个时候52a95370a0663245ea5b50a9d42fe9db8b00036f,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QgtCPz6yXgYqAm7GghK2ysqGi,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ-wk7WiJjViY2JiNzEzYzI2ZWY=

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:1a87086c02a9ae573a554c510775c0b51036361d

   “我希望你见到我时2ff959aade92e41c3969c4ad5efdc0c3JjViY2JiNzEzYzI3MGE=

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ2xpc-i5cda18b1a7f3d0a043e8a56e1f60fc9f

     产生幻想72be89ca25362cf62928d522dc16eed19a0837f8fc8ff3d05b73c2f7922554bdd58411988fc85fca

     我希望你看到我JTViY2JiNzEzYzJjNWE=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgGawuLWi

     只看到我MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ2xuK2i,看到我本身9300219e9514b9caaaad8a0af15d5bc4a5892a86f2db7fdce466f0bede3ad99d106ee77d21ec933c

     然后真正了解我本身5588ac8788e19b22a8a29b960a0d9a52。”c8b946813cc29296b941494d51c8b35bd9afc2ae

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代0534dbdfea5d67ef6aeb22f8f335aa530000a23b,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-PlK3NgrB3q72tgZ-xtbmi。因为JTViY2JiNzEzYzJjN2I=,表层的人生永远被假象包围383a137e21030b37872a40203b152f0d,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美4436b73b660c1811cbbbd5ba4090c00e,它需要你活得深入且真诚!3519a7df3c9b4900cc9c0836b48e76f6

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