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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomSypa2i,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬ITVjNDdiOWQwMzlhNzg=。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomSyqKmi,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰KjVjNDdiOWQwMzk1OWM=,扯出“阴阳合同”aa2d60cbe8a7bc05e1021161a2192460772a3701,再到后来与范冰冰和解d0bddc6259d950ddc3598cf64374ff55c6a225f9ITVjNDdiOWQwMzhmNzg=

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间9135685a0e0838d96e6b7b764bd8803e7e8e64f0,网上也是充斥着各种评论4405f7606b35e5cd1be61a1ac49760ed,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的IzVjNDdiOWQwMzk1YmQ=,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的JTVjNDdiOWQwMzk1YzQ=,还有大谈戏子误国的……26a8955dad4f81cb4b254c49b2edfa64

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总之505a4cc16becc1104538f4db804ba6b6,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风NWM0N2I5ZDAzOWE4OQ==3a208d46ca0245bee4784afb6be54947

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事情刚出来的时候c755ee6008b26c0e3c98234c8b688c56,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义71a10e83112bcb865437baa3f01274cbac8efe6a,谈看法MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomS9taWi,聊的火热KjVjNDdiOWQwMzlhOTI=。只有小白一言不发MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomS9tcui,当问到她的看法时6f93dbf5ad49a5faa7787f43c532b7d413928a54,小白说:MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoqqx27Wi

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论28a064e4359c9624ca491b5a2653df01,还是等真相出来再说吧!”ffeb00dfbf8e822969ec3f65b7b610b4969a6613

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小白是公司新来的同事MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomWwpa2i,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论XjVjNDdiOWQwMzk2MTQ=,更少抨击话题人物IzVjNDdiOWQwMzlhOWE=。就算偶尔发表意见JTVjNDdiOWQwMzk2MWY=,也总是很有自己的态度ITVjNDdiOWQwMzk2Mjg=,不会被大家的情绪所干扰a1fe92d21f3f0e75183e2a70189b9414,总是一副超然物外833859ad32c3a388bfab57f928acdc43,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomWwk6mi,也从来不会人云亦云2288edee00be5702d56d47a3af55e81d,有自己的想法b29ba8a8e502be8aef072ea2902a60d6,而且常常是一针见血JTVjNDdiOWQwMzk2NTg=,直指问题核心MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5uyuK2iMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoqqytbGi

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomWxtc-i,喜怒不形于色4a871a2b8cc6f4f4ced1de60054ceddcd4e66eee,而且从不和大家一样站队541ac1e356e8b1edc323b86248c1971e,叽叽喳喳地发表意见MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomWxzr2i,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉eeab21a38a2c1b5eda616955c10b89a9。但学姐反而觉得MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomWx272i,这样的小白很有魅力41964dd26294d914317a6683f40d20f4MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OHeZuxoqGi

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代JDVjNDdiOWQwMzk2ODM=,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来7a772cfa60e62b1defa54e4fd2b3b0d972ecfbc5,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言6ddb56af0ac02fb3a4f93687018757670082e9c7,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂XjVjNDdiOWQwMzk2OTg=,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!8f0ffbd4205738f2b43c82fb3d921a97

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomWytc-i,甚至离真相越来越远MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OKfZyxoqGi。可是当时当刻308201c6c3700f6319f9ed20ea09e900,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”a63dc87cf943dbbba03d3bc844cc38c6,至于眼前的事实是否是真相a74d09c841051800877372bd05b18a5d,who care呢?JDVjNDdiOWQwMzkwZDA=

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但小白不一样e5e0dca2c8ba2113fe636132659c04bf,学心理学出身的她05b090e7319b0691aec5c1a57d5d1eb9006ab351,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:QDVjNDdiOWQwMzkxMGU=

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“一件事情发生后KjVjNDdiOWQwMzk2ZDE=,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomW9pa2i,能引发体内激素分泌6bed5484e9949f522e7cc0765588133c57b7b0a1,导致情绪浮动很大的元素33507dbd218243fdfef8eebced9e20cc,直面事件本身890bd2dfae72012533c237e25cb071b1a976cc6c,看到事件核心7b414442504b78a798d45b71af2869e8。”56aa29871e1ff9f34616e880537a449e6eebfc47

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”43b3de61c2b1db040129ca434bcfb8e476547c2607ca972d1dc8afcc6ce32d03

拒绝“性冷淡”JTVjNDdiOWQwMzkxM2M=

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”016179bc742d05e888d436a0bdf39fbe07a188da

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格728fbe2c2bc7d9c40325b4c656eb6061,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式b9b090d1bda897428df80ce224d4480e94bc2b67,叫“第一时间思考力”3bf28855e82bf37d52683ee5abb585d956df1ea7。指的是一件事情出来后384b1f130b5a4bf577d0130faedec035b324dd50,你在“第一时间”会想到什么0368c165dc2260d77b4709b47fac1c04f575c62e,会做什么JTVjNDdiOWQwMzk3MTU=,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式323667a38cac11a379c9a194f37d62f499608a0a9a2a7d2074f48695e863d7fd28ffa6e9

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomawtb2i,越来越少d83df7ddba8439d7a800107eb6980329。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为JDVjNDdiOWQwMzk3MjQ=,越来越只是情绪的出口8c68966182019354498bb0ad9dfebd37,而不是深度思考的入口38834f6b0e1960eb2ebd8c343ff7cb659a3095d5252872899a7e46b34c05c87e

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样IzVjNDdiOWQwMzlhZjQ=。事情曝出来后JjVjNDdiOWQwMzk3MzI=,你在第一时间想的是什么?ITVjNDdiOWQwMzkxOGQ=

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出dd3c90c360c26c2e1431c48336906624f77c6c78,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病cad6ef5035d8289a72f7373606a11452e3608d64,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomaxpbWi,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世b29e7bda3ee863a3459b35cd65ec448fMDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoquytb2i

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomaxqLGi,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomaxtbmi,魔鬼在人间!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoqu9pcui

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可是后来72df94374e52e36b6f7573fa3bf26769eb64ab35,“王凤雅事件”发生反转239ea018046ac92cf29f6abbcbb563879887bdd3。记者调查发现MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomaxy7mi,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费JDVjNDdiOWQwMzk3NzU=,凤雅确诊在后07cd097190970ade89576248947fc7c5,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术bf745f2775289e395b9f1141255620c7bec155a0。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多JjVjNDdiOWQwMzk3ODU=,也并不是网上说的“15万”f580ba60996f5f170d508b541a9f66f9f9a8cd5db2cd91a9a31315222e852e66751b7288d92682ed

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这时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomaypb2i,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5ywtbmi。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了604b75c96766c74bb1062712309c82750f4ceb50,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”bfefd056281a343f947c37d60960ba829ff0dc5a,“刑拘陈岚”等等ITVjNDdiOWQwMzliMjU=QDVjNDdiOWQwMzkyNDE=

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所以17832f0e1623da58f16694c2743c168a,你有没有发现6041e97a6a0010c6485f126beb22d1b1,我们身边的人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoma8uLmi,也包括我们自己dc2f6aea5f65e28e1702f5c4d60bcbb5,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流QDVjNDdiOWQwMzliMmU=。一件事情出来后4dc6b2ad8e91b9b66fcb0c40bd1756c8,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoma8272i,眼前的事情是否是真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoma8k7Wi,就开始宣泄我们的情绪NWM0N2I5ZDAzOTdkYg==,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤373a5b005a45ef1049a21bec3b3de1e064abae9901491d9f5d2a0e7bffcb6d3d

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而且有一些人MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoma9qLGi,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoma9tbWi,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感KjVjNDdiOWQwMzliM2U=393946a2edd140a1f645edb5fd77233d32fc2903

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于是0811f1058f0962c942e4b851f59cea24ae603054,我们用来思考的路径越来越短MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoma9y7Gi,甚至绝大部分人ca67c7fc04e2033ecddc9644cb11f1ba,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OHgZy8yKGi

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomewpa2i,在很多事情面前20544cdacbfdf8bc5587cf41f91e1464,我们会变得只注重表层体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OHnquxsqGi,注重对情绪的应激反应d431c49eeef5f20532dd4fc9b5a77bc9,而不是对事情本身的深度思考QDVjNDdiOWQwMzliNDU=MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OHgaCwyKGi

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而如果一件事情的表层体验IzVjNDdiOWQwMzk4MmE=,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomewzq2i,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感cade35f9378035d87410769d136f0d3606504fce,更不会产生“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5yxpb2i56e0f078ede1ac91b50cb64c25c2dde9913a54e6

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时efbb0e48ac49847673a2e3a262c60b96,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝60ba74ca751aa64f197d25068d21530c,甚至忘却自身的体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomexpcei,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomexqLmi,被称之为“心流”bf98b5403c15bc0320e5c09363f60e51e10fbf9aJDVjNDdiOWQwMzkzMWE=

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渐渐地MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomextbmi,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomexuLGi,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5yxtcei。久而久之f7bd9555932f544636630063328f1376628df59a,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人7de77e7b43790dcbad3f9386e5f8280956f55bc6,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力NWM0N2I5ZDAzOTg3OA==,你开始提不出自己的观点0dd167cc39bd090364f7927939b83eb1,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去a1191b3b54bd805e319fa136340f05f3,任意一阵强风KjVjNDdiOWQwMzk4OGU=,都能把你打翻!MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OHhKyxoqGi

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你需要重塑第一时间思考力acb3625ce9b37d5df624bcb6c3d74e36

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第一时间思考力是可贵的25651be13fa8390827a31502840afe79,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomeytcui,毕竟3816393a18feb57c5c6b36a1896bcbef,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人IzVjNDdiOWQwMzliNjc=b8552c9f17ce695d68e8ab237e9609c7ccc47b5c

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1.  养成淘金式思维XjVjNDdiOWQwMzk4YjA=,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号08d7fae54c073311bb83ecd4eeda745f。  MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoq2ypbWi

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”d4e87f78eec7b2fd08640ec03da142ffKjVjNDdiOWQwMzkzOWM=

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式NWM0N2I5ZDAzOThiOA==,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备666108aea07df25ed3d845ef99780661,但它还有一个致命缺陷NWM0N2I5ZDAzOThjZg==,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡NWM0N2I5ZDAzOWI4MA==ITVjNDdiOWQwMzkzYWI=

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度fe22f415f670a0d2f3c4a71d7a363c641545b605,经过判断MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtome9qKmi,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么0327f25afd04503f14d210b4828152e6688817ebMDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoq28y7mi

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后5e5ed280adef7b2bb6c73f27f48c8c6f,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息0e1baaaee2375f7f3f244fc6092f9a8500107c13,这就是“海绵式思维”ITVjNDdiOWQwMzliOTA=。然后就激起了我们的情绪e3fdb93c505a367c171a1f72f86488afa2c6a9ba,受这种愤怒情绪的支配1bc93637fb90c9ecb0e62b9e65c2a80515972c2b,在网上大肆谩骂c25ab75460bb6b45a027a6e256fb398753086e49MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtoq29y7Gi

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomiwpbWi,事情出现后98a0bf884f69bba7e4e94ae29c3512c403f3737f,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomiwta2i,然后有时间和耐心eff0728952e75daf37a1bedfb96f0cde53540cd6,等待真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomiwy6mi,选择吸收什么ae9a05c144b0c094596b6878c44392b1974bb21b,忽略什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OHoq2wsqGi,进入深层次的思考JTVjNDdiOWQwMzliYTE=IzVjNDdiOWQwMzk0MTU=

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所以XjVjNDdiOWQwMzk5M2Y=,当你对事情产生质疑时JDVjNDdiOWQwMzk5NDY=,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomixpcei,也就不会做出应激行为NWM0N2I5ZDAzOWJhOQ==。这个时候fb8aa7030fdacd6f05292e1524b1f4c1,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑9adc20976ef3a8f9a011fd17e6a6b958facdc20b,你就会进入深度思考2d804b36de70c2b49cee339ddb582c528ce2e2c2MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OHiKyx2KGi

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷JjVjNDdiOWQwMzliYmE=6d55f2528ef798c3d9435d613a89cbcd89e7bec5

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要重塑第一时间思考力6b9e87ac1d4e7c7f094f32cb545aa1ed92b3e84a,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪429cfd0b7da9b2161b9395e4e81943a8cae76a83,让它不再控制你的大脑MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomixzrWi,变得相对理性一些MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5y8zq2i。为了抑制“情绪先行”028f2eb6b8c0dd044cc716407f2a4290,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进01515c025cda08bcd14c3b207a30f6cba90635e7XjVjNDdiOWQwMzk0OTA=

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响5abcde94dd2cc0472526601e7b744207342df523,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯b280ad5d24dfa9cbe1875492afc4c1e0。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯d170ee6e7bc43fbccb001b36480fba53ae4079be,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑48ba4907c1593272d547b3825772b6d869aea3a2,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OKgZ6x2KGiKjVjNDdiOWQwMzk0OWY=

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比如说MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomiytbWi,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时7f154418be4cbb855df5bb831f4b08c4e86b6c57,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”81ea8ac3c9adfdff7f5964d792ac8906,丧失了第一时间思考力4342fcaf0dd5cc055f1aa20700fd491a。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题0d39695a8bf78a7cee3df1bc59759143e22ba556,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己XjVjNDdiOWQwMzk5Yjg=,但前提是a32ad8912d8e915ee7cb45da8cc93b697f16340a,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!4b458d557d934e7275c6168f6bf06c6ca96a5c85

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例如200e3957917b8b3ca718ce7e4e78d6ee,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OHo528yKGi,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己555185bad47812f573474aca6e3d7aea,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物1f5125c9c4522b1e478f44d4da87e8f36af2656f。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5y9y62i929a4a392835552ebea031a2206e5ffb

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天d5d541137ae7bc1428f3fc3fd135b096d03ddcba。所以JDVjNDdiOWQwMzk5ZTE=,时不时地吃点苦头”c0a6a363748c4fc1f98640ee196c3c5c07865b47,说不定就会使你印象深刻2fd3094940b94391ad27503b6bc91628989f91e3,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomO9uLmi

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其实3efda8e4d59b8d66db851e6a8ad110dc04b758f0,学姐想说JDVjNDdiOWQwMzlhMDQ=,当你重塑了第一时间思考力9820fa22d8d6f9ea3feb305491277151,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5uwqLGi,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格NWM0N2I5ZDAzOWMwYw==。而那个时候JDVjNDdiOWQwMzlhMTk=,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考XjVjNDdiOWQwMzlhMjI=,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙aa6972f5c63950f266090d9d33655b69015f2d7e16d7820d6730881d86d2a07514d53c01

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGtomSw26mi

   “我希望你见到我时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5uwy7GiQDVjNDdiOWQwMzk1NDA=

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素41af68e162324c62104833e728b69853b541291f615baeae88f8523b799eb7b5462e576c

     产生幻想9ef24fb87fc194a11aff5cb34c3bfb74e7ea2110c54b1d80730cf77019cf54b4dc11b83b

     我希望你看到我7879c5f38ed9354dd24a7dea71712d17JDVjNDdiOWQwMzk1NTg=

     只看到我MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9jtCEpsfNg42DqLGto5uwk62i,看到我本身QDVjNDdiOWQwMzlhNGE=IzVjNDdiOWQwMzk1NjA=

     然后真正了解我本身XjVjNDdiOWQwMzljMjQ=。”8bc25f4c99d538e9820559e11d6e4800b4212815

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代6d6dd0269b0314562aedf462b9700df8d04a79dd,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格0b63ea3152079b1f79e25d3b539d97f7。因为JTVjNDdiOWQwMzlhNWI=,表层的人生永远被假象包围a01fce839a94741767e3f8342979dabe2442d85a,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6QhZaElKyZjnpzq7OKfGWxyKGi,它需要你活得深入且真诚!f6fde1916f1f91be012a0e612990724b

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