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比网络喷子更可怕的,是你不会“性冷淡”?

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最近0fe2002566bf446831313b00135825c0,崔永元炮轰《手机2》剧组事件在网上闹得沸沸扬扬MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5uxuLmi。从最开始的炮轰刘震云冯小刚QDViYTZmMTYxZDk0Zjk=,到后来将矛头转向范冰冰NWJhNmYxNjFkOTUwMg==,扯出“阴阳合同”8751a60c571f5b61ace3e68b1d4ec1ce332720d6,再到后来与范冰冰和解866bbb8b9fc50e143dd942cc1a0810cbMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53n6Cwy7Wi

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整个事件足足持续了快两周的时间MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omSwqLWi,网上也是充斥着各种评论MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omSwtbmi,有支持崔老师真性情真君子的4ad5599ade05bae4086888399401231a,也有说冯小刚不厚道、刘震云伪君子的9d16a52772c8e0d98136901fa715bc10,还有大谈戏子误国的……4be2b68c27407cf80179be5d3ff6c5b241451e09

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总之40d5b5f8913beb5c23833209b78c4b57d9fec5be,在微博上掀起了一场血雨腥风65b7342d5490f3edf5b614b308189e7fMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53n6Cx27Wi

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事情刚出来的时候98f3657d35d965675d3d376f7d602fa1,学姐办公室的同事也一直在对这件事情下定义e661f14cb8f3d6bde921fbcb2ff2603e,谈看法9c04b79e766bbf45ec351144622657e1,聊的火热ffa16f8e4e42a8717f2fa013b2b14a156340af3d。只有小白一言不发7bdbe849cee4fee528eb596963cf54a9,当问到她的看法时67d2084c17b8c658170484f5def9e42207e273bd,小白说:7d19100d15fefb9c04d598d9fba5baec

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“不辨真相的事情我不会妄加评论QDViYTZmMTYxZDk1NmI=,还是等真相出来再说吧!”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53n6C9y62i

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小白是公司新来的同事IzViYTZmMTYxZDk1NzM=,平时很少参与大家对热门八卦的讨论5fbdc3173335a03ae1474589dd266fa065b08b0c,更少抨击话题人物MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5uypa2i。就算偶尔发表意见8cd757da68a5c4a66f779a98e68d3f42,也总是很有自己的态度MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omSypbmi,不会被大家的情绪所干扰JTViYTZmMTYxZDk1OTQ=,总是一副超然物外9ccc9c31586a814d3949fc73284c7f358c0ef36c,平和冷静的样子;工作上的她JDViYTZmMTYxZDk1YTc=,也从来不会人云亦云QDViYTZmMTYxZDk1YjE=,有自己的想法JTViYTZmMTYxZDk1Yjk=,而且常常是一针见血f430b33f51f292f40385ee50a4de6ba0,直指问题核心KjViYTZmMTYxZDlhOTE=ace7f757507886c820800e0628bfbb8d

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一些同事觉得小白有点儿无趣MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omS8262i,喜怒不形于色JDViYTZmMTYxZDk1ZDM=,而且从不和大家一样站队d7c868f405e1697431cbc1cf8738d6d6,叽叽喳喳地发表意见MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omS9qLGi,甚至有点“性冷淡”的感觉MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5uytbGi。但学姐反而觉得9de35919ec334cfe88c55bf1dded401e,这样的小白很有魅力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5uyuK2iQDViYTZmMTYxZDkwMWM=

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在这个人人都能发表看法的舆论时代3d8ba0550c9b37aa7ee533c4734a09d8dc6fc173,一旦有什么新鲜事曝出来133ca1bf1609067a959d0cfc1b968ffd,大家做的第一件事就是去相关微博下面留言MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omS9zrWi,急着用愤怒、谩骂去标榜自己的正义感!“先去骂MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omWwpbmi,骂爽了再说”成了很多人面对问题的操作方式!MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oqqwy8ei

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尽管这种操作会让你忽略事实的真相dff7b790dbd19435c54e292f47f8ed902d5195cf,甚至离真相越来越远MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5u8tbmi。可是当时当刻NWJhNmYxNjFkOTYxZQ==,谁不是急着去做“正义的使者”0db8483c74f2f6e60555338702bd15f543807a22,至于眼前的事实是否是真相c8fbe0a12a29d95aad0feefeef73dfc6,who care呢?XjViYTZmMTYxZDkwNGI=

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但小白不一样7b9dd77e132d351ec55efe3a0b7c3eda,学心理学出身的她MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omWw28ei,说自己比较习惯“性冷淡式”的处世风格:IzViYTZmMTYxZDkwODg=

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“一件事情发生后JjViYTZmMTYxZDk2NDg=,先摒除那些附着于事件表面上MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omWxpc-i,能引发体内激素分泌ac36da3256d32eaa165c45a98d1be3798284022a,导致情绪浮动很大的元素JjViYTZmMTYxZDk2NjA=,直面事件本身55672074a4634901f0bca2da5b57dc2ee6da0cfd,看到事件核心MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5u8uLmi。”a892ab11df91fddf1123446ac294829b05586bc3

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这就是她眼中的“性冷淡”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5u8y72iMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oqq8tami

拒绝“性冷淡”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oqq8tc-i

你正在逐渐丧失“第一时间思考力”276b87167072c6a2b9f17946a8eaab20

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其实“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omWxzqmi,还能反映出心理学上的一种思考方式KjViYTZmMTYxZDk2N2I=,叫“第一时间思考力”ec30c814310953fb963871b1c62f7803fcc00ceb。指的是一件事情出来后c79cd7287c6db799883071794a44dfb2a24ddf3c,你在“第一时间”会想到什么01852fe24f741a3e6157bed115909257,会做什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omWyqL2i,而你的所想所做就反映出了你的思考方式ea9c4635c826f3a2fdb8f938c99c400020cf2216KjViYTZmMTYxZDkwY2I=

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只是现在大多数人花在“第一时间”上的思考MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omWytcei,越来越少MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5u9pbGi。人们在“第一时间”作出的行为42c4a8d4c897aa4296b3309ed9f2f1b4,越来越只是情绪的出口d1f6033f2d7200937fad966f4e3ff1432347fbfb,而不是深度思考的入口d21de28f987d0daeca551c575920a5390519471e0d6f500611ef07a31518d560

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就像前一阵子的“王凤雅事件”一样QDViYTZmMTYxZDlhZWE=。事情曝出来后JTViYTZmMTYxZDk2YjU=,你在第一时间想的是什么?42fb2d2fbcb57aeeee883ffcb31d03fb

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当微博大V“作家陈岚”第一次指出b77eac08885673fa76040a45105641c8,王凤雅的母亲杨美芹没有将网上募集到的资金给小凤雅治病d2f64ddf6a209fce499087b456873bbd11c1d10e,而是给她的弟弟做唇腭裂手术了69dbc12b0a4c9d5687ed0a5fb2121c88bc6921f2,因此导致了小凤雅的逝世JjViYTZmMTYxZDlhZjI=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oqq9zqmi

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你是不是也像大多数网友一样13d3ff1f781f7e8e5b1696ded6562c83,觉得他们这一家人“重男轻女”“丧尽天良”“禽兽不如”!甚至想去微博下面向她的家人开炮——“地狱空荡荡MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omW9pcei,魔鬼在人间!”7cc5dfe613cdfa82135574a8231dbc67

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可是后来MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOHkZ-wsqGi,“王凤雅事件”发生反转ebf70aab7d595acc40b7daf27d0d7ad4。记者调查发现29da9f0ddaa7655031b067aadebb6d35,小凤雅弟弟的手术在前且全程免费MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omW9y6mi,凤雅确诊在后NWJhNmYxNjFkOTcwMg==,所以善款并没有挪用给弟弟做手术QDViYTZmMTYxZDliMDI=。而且杨美芹在网上筹到的善款一共是3万多NWJhNmYxNjFkOTcwYg==,也并不是网上说的“15万”683c1a212490609e53c4011951c655c76ff50635a53579da47a9777053c63d8a216567f79a1c29ad

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这时MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOHmqq9sqGi,你是不是又开始随着舆论开始倒戈220a50f3fce40625cede89eaedaa914f。觉得那些造谣的人太过分了7c1a665b2ed2c8c25604b7368cb309949e78628b,大呼着“天底下没有哪个母亲甘愿自己的孩子受苦”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omawuL2i,“刑拘陈岚”等等01baac917286663fd4bd50583cd3171edf6ce72a4e96cdff91f139b65e3ab6df

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所以MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omawy8-i,你有没有发现5518b6d78094c43f6a16657c1e5be2fe,我们身边的人MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omaw28ui,也包括我们自己8bfed3d52132baa5fd8271fac7e9a907,好像变得越来越情绪化、随大流MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5ywuLGi。一件事情出来后407d2753f5beed46c9eb99271f62dc4b,我们甚至都还没来得及静下心来想一想MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omaxtami,眼前的事情是否是真相b33d9887c5983d43314cbe69a8e5f82ab6b5e299,就开始宣泄我们的情绪b6bd6850b3b021fa43fb19d4117f6854,或愤怒、或同情、或悲伤MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5ywy7Wi06dbda2a75dfa9cb8d78755cdc2ce70b31efa91a

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而且有一些人dbf00f8a1558b9fdc9b9e0b4e3083781,甚至根本不在乎事情的真相是什么56d168f6a8614601eae78378980affee,他只是想通过这个渠道来追求情绪发泄的快感QDViYTZmMTYxZDliMzM=MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOHgKuwoqGi

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于是MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omaxk7Gi,我们用来思考的路径越来越短MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omaypb2i,甚至绝大部分人1e65555da79f6058220f04119605d679bd1cf2db,已经丧失了第一时间思考力!NWJhNmYxNjFkOTIyOA==

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当我们丧失了第一时间思考力后d123fa0c6e1d7ac944798a71930fe982,在很多事情面前18a7b4dac43a78efbe398928049843c73952b245,我们会变得只注重表层体验2f480301fc0f295b771872a483797bfeb4c58733,注重对情绪的应激反应MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oma8y7Wi,而不是对事情本身的深度思考KjViYTZmMTYxZDliM2I=MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oqyxtbWi

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而如果一件事情的表层体验8c1dd7b6431b354e06afcd22ccdf839e,就能使你得到一种情绪上的满足JDViYTZmMTYxZDk3Y2U=,那你就不会想去探寻深度体验的快感ae714f3d2890ce3dfece7eb6abe22ab3,更不会产生“心流”cef202ea550df0a9f6436db04e55f90780e12503JTViYTZmMTYxZDkyNmY=

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积极心理学家米哈里曾经说过:当你真正沉浸在一件事情当中时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oma9pc-i,你会产生一种感受不到时间流逝11b5db7f78c35ed6eda302e2421e01c146e29a2c,甚至忘却自身的体验KjViYTZmMTYxZDk3ZjE=,那是一种所有感触都美好到极点的体验MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oma9y62i,被称之为“心流”JTViYTZmMTYxZDliNGI=aab7d0ab9220bca0bb324257b607caeb3fb592e4

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渐渐地QDViYTZmMTYxZDk4MDk=,“表层体验”代替了“深度思考”a1eaa875e4425cd8e768200fda03af66,“情绪满足”代替了“心流”MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOKgGO9sqGi。久而久之MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOHnquxoqGi,你变成了一个被情绪裹挟的人d9eae049095b662622d2c50c835499ffac4312ef,你甚至丧失了独立思考的能力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omewk7Gi,你开始提不出自己的观点fe68a2ecfb668c02d957d4f8565c1728,只能在别人观点的汪洋中漂来漂去MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omexqLmi,任意一阵强风XjViYTZmMTYxZDk4NWU=,都能把你打翻!JDViYTZmMTYxZDkyOTI=

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不想失去自我MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oqy827Gi

你需要重塑第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oqy8k62i

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第一时间思考力是可贵的5fef27c5eaf19c1302c293a8a8bedec5,但第一时间思考力也是可以通过训练来获得的MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOHnmWysqGi,毕竟3ebcbaa8f5ea4762520fb2435c33f166,没有人想要成为一个不会思考的人4abb36212832034cd1d5aa4982d119daMDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oqy9qK2i

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1.  养成淘金式思维9160f49c72208cc7dcc7aef9dd1ea04ccde3088d,对听到和读到的东西先打一个问号MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5yxy6Wi。  7ef0efd708ee196cea5bd7d13ca4ab69

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人的思维方式可以分为“海绵式思维”和“淘金式思维”KjViYTZmMTYxZDliNmY=f512eeb6f0f9bf3ee6d687fa9339a4725b501eee

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“海绵式思维”就是指我们对听到和看到的信息总是采取吸收的方式4e422decbc732480b5c00f9a02bca3eb758a85f4,它虽然有助于我们进行知识储备5bc8b1bb5e2e94e6d04fc5bc3e001fa3,但它还有一个致命缺陷MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOHnmixoqGi,就是容易让我们沦为他人的傀儡7c21387eed13db138cf145569567b6c7QDViYTZmMTYxZDkzMTY=

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而“淘金式思维”指的是对待事情总是采取提问的态度23165a8aec720bcf249bcdfa20f7c6c842d89419,经过判断42f3c570f0283d51a87fc13c694fa4ef0dc8919a,自己选择吸收什么、忽略什么MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5yx28uiMDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53oq2wuLmi

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就比如说“王凤雅事件”刚曝出后8ed4543fefb2edd20f77f7ccf66217a9,大家不管三七二十一就直接吸收了“陈岚指控杨美芹重男轻女”的信息ce9d41089b677e97564f50ddc8b5c44fb5a7c1c2,这就是“海绵式思维”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5yypaWi。然后就激起了我们的情绪b9b1412080b3452dbc94964bda251c6ed2fca628,受这种愤怒情绪的支配ITViYTZmMTYxZDk4Y2I=,在网上大肆谩骂6f2f81fe25790092d028d9dbb99a6fdaMDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOHhGS9yKGi

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可是如果站在“淘金式思维”的角度e5db031b2c38d2824e962d3cde81e3402421cc30,事情出现后MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53ome9pbGi,我们就会先产生质疑:“这件事情是真的吗?”“真的会有这样的父母存在吗?”也许第一时间就不会产生愤怒的情绪8c74b88714548c59dd039a3615ef175f,然后有时间和耐心b9f06b0c5c0614dc5cb61f5aca0bdc04265e3dfd,等待真相MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53ome9y6mi,选择吸收什么KjViYTZmMTYxZDk5MDE=,忽略什么0ce74cac5b0d63bdfae126c89be55f66e395cfc9,进入深层次的思考43a0d557ba9b9298bd440590d03ef294357147f3a182bb455f548a1c660bf7888db5d6f696caefdc

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所以334dfb0de5fe6beadc01ddd8a01cb51b4bf902de,当你对事情产生质疑时e29bb4613debecaa1ce20a2fa4a97c12dce85084,你就不再轻易被情绪绑架5a768f7c8037835a46df27cb331a26760c3a3dc9,也就不会做出应激行为b5a7b06b40293e732842bff823c914718b45f194。这个时候NWJhNmYxNjFkOTkyYw==,第一时间思考力就会主导你的大脑fa488d73371202ed3fa83562efefddbe509216a0,你就会进入深度思考30a8723563ce9e6d3ef6cb59394a4be9168bd99dd7af05b58d2206f4fd3faa91ca08eae2

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2.  够痛的行为才能助你拆除情绪的地雷47723a2594b7cadae723f5598ffb9f27be59f39f865d7aa3e23020aab5f15f24e8633879

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要重塑第一时间思考力e255bce20abc4ff29295bc92219b10e4,归根到底需要抑制你的情绪IzViYTZmMTYxZDk5NDY=,让它不再控制你的大脑JjViYTZmMTYxZDk5NGY=,变得相对理性一些b6619cc72d0d84aa7cd47e8fbb6915a385250832。为了抑制“情绪先行”KjViYTZmMTYxZDk5NTc=,我们还可以通过一些行为来督促改进d27560d47fb4227d9b61dd4a3626b516QDViYTZmMTYxZDkzZTM=

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由于长时间受不理性想法的影响JDViYTZmMTYxZDk5NWY=,“情绪先行”甚至已经形成了一种习惯058b1d52501d4151029a2ba714308092。而如果你不能一下子改变这个习惯JDViYTZmMTYxZDk5Njc=,像上面提到的对问题产生质疑IzViYTZmMTYxZDk5NzA=,那你可以在下次“情绪先行”的时候给自己设立一些惩罚MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5y8k62iJTViYTZmMTYxZDkzZjM=

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比如说23408d8d7e071ca1eee70caffdeecca7,下次类似于“王凤雅事件”再出现时1920f7aa3bf4d8496788892cefb8b51253e612b3,你还是下意识地“情绪先行”a43332b83bca88db3588701733c34eed,丧失了第一时间思考力b810cf3e91a4e4cb0332438734acec27bbc50172。后来你认识到了自己的这个问题05517496d2f1f05ce8263009bd0ca0c2,那就可以通过一些行为惩罚一下自己582a3dea955fa2c4b7166e404ff62f5683b748d6,但前提是74897688f05de78d78ef8a9d3eadaed1,这个惩罚一定要让自己觉得“痛”!QDViYTZmMTYxZDk0MDI=

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例如MDAwMDAwMDAwMH6Qgs6Ez7zcgqB4nLOHo5uxsqGi,你因此放弃一双自己很喜欢的鞋子c4eacabc6c054b61f036ebc1be18c49b,或者给朋友发一个100元的红包······现在的我们总是习惯奖励自己QDViYTZmMTYxZDk5YmM=,三不五时地就能找个由头送自己个礼物6187abfef127888009db8cca4f5ebd03。如果学姐现在问你:“你最近有奖励自己或者想送自己什么礼物吗?”你心里一定能列出一个清单ITViYTZmMTYxZDliZjI=MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omOw27Gi

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但是如果问你:“你最近为惩罚自己做过什么行为吗?”你肯定要犹豫思考好半天65ea16b175e19a1698b6b517346e79e9。所以JTViYTZmMTYxZDk5YzQ=,时不时地吃点苦头”MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omi827mi,说不定就会使你印象深刻JDViYTZmMTYxZDk5ZDQ=,毕竟“痛的领悟”才能坚定你改变的决心!MDAwMDAwMDAwMIijjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omOxpbmi

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其实9dbd48a6d0755d0f485580fdff986f5f,学姐想说JDViYTZmMTYxZDk5ZTU=,当你重塑了第一时间思考力MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omi9tb2i,不再被事物表面的情绪所牵引6ae552785dde1074cad3804a950dbd4b,你才真正拥有了“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHqjjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5y9zrWi。而那个时候IzViYTZmMTYxZDlhMDM=,我们才能拥有自己独立的思考4ecae3fc3671835ff3182e2bb53096fa,体会到深度思考和体验的幸福与美妙MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o52wpceiITViYTZmMTYxZDk0ODU=

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就像它的设计理念里描绘的:f43300e07fe47597710dcbb95f024628217dbe1a

   “我希望你见到我时MDAwMDAwMDAwMHp9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o5uwqLGi16fecb57a2d28a04fc21fd9b4c67dad88f7b37f0

     不要被我的最表层的衣着激发体内激素NWJhNmYxNjFkOWExZg==ITViYTZmMTYxZDk0YTg=

     产生幻想5349fa13ffa9ce626e6675f95117b31b47b00171f155555ae3e355e427b4570360e7de10

     我希望你看到我XjViYTZmMTYxZDlhMjk=bbf0b83d44c9ce4c1108ccb39712332e

     只看到我23635f43b4a51c8326858c07afab90df,看到我本身NWJhNmYxNjFkOWEzYQ==MDAwMDAwMDAwMHujjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omO8y8-i

     然后真正了解我本身MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmzjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o52wtcei。”MDAwMDAwMDAwMIF9js-Ptr3RgYqLqb53omO826mi

在这个焦躁不安又情绪泛滥的时代c67907f7ebb0c4f237166dbf1d78dbedc96ce682,学姐希望每个小可爱都能拥有“性冷淡式”的处世风格MDAwMDAwMDAwMHmNjs-Ptr3RgYqLqb53o52wy6mi。因为7cd45475e8f933022d691e8dc610dc66ef5ad9f9,表层的人生永远被假象包围XjViYTZmMTYxZDlhNTI=,太虚伪!性感的人生从来不是看上去很美f8113992b44ad11b92255d815deb75fa6541ceca,它需要你活得深入且真诚!KjViYTZmMTYxZDk0ZDU=

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